Mommy duties
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Anonymous
| I nanny for a SAHM and Military father. Caring for one of the handful of children they have, the child has special needs and requires extra attention. My job is no where near easy, in fact. It's stressful. Although mom is SAH, she is always on the go, taking kids to after school activities, Dr appointments, church meetings, lunch dates with friends, etc. and has me playing the role of mom whenever she isn't around. I have to do the cooking, cleaning, and making sure the kids are taking care of their chores. Along with the job I was originally hired for. Once a week I have to come in early and vacuum and mop the floors to their 2 story home, because mom "doesn't have time, or hates doing them." I get so frustrated having to do this because it's a huge house and she expects everything to be lifted and moved around to clean and when I miss a spot she flips her lid! I've been really quiet about the way I feel about the things mom expects and she had fired past nannies for refusing to do these things. Does anyone else deal with a MB in my situation and how should I handle it? |
Anonymous
| QUIT. End of discussion. Start looking for another position immediately and give notice when you get a new job. |
Anonymous
| LOL, if you don't want to do the work then you can't have the job. Quit if you can't handle it. |
Anonymous
| MB here. I think you should quit. |
Anonymous
| QUIT! |
Anonymous
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A Nanny shouldn't be performing such cleaning duties unless she agreed to be a maid as well.
You need to leave this family. Sadly it will not get any better if you stay. |
Anonymous
| You should have made it clear at your interview that you don't do heavy cleaning. I would sit down and talk with them about your expectations. Tell then what you are ok with doing and what you are not, Tell them that you understand if that doesnt work for them and they want to find someone else you understand, but what you are doing now is not what working for you. |
Anonymous
| OP here, it was discussed in the beginning it was to be light house work, and it somehow turned into heavy duty work, I've discussed this with mom and she pretty much said it was my job and she doesn't have time for it. I've gotten to a point where I created a chore chart for the children and assigned them to do these tasks and of course when they have a full schedule MB says I have to step in and do their chore because they are busy. I absolutely would not! I am not a slave, I've even injured myself doing these things and had to take a few days off, and it has gotten to times where I've almost passed out because I was doing so much and was overwhelming myself with these tasks. I've had enough! And to the person that responded that I should quit if I couldn't handle the work. I've been there for over 3 years. I can handle my job, but I what I can't handle is a lazy MB, who thinks it's my job to do everything in the house while she runs for the door the minute I walk in! |
Anonymous
| Since you resent the mom, the relationship is probably poisoned, so you should quit. But if you don't want to, you should suggest a housekeeper for the heavy housekeeping. |
Anonymous
| If she has fired others in the past its pretty clear that she expects a nanny-housekeeper. go find another job.. |
Anonymous
| You been putting up with this for 3 years? You need to find another job and then give 2 weeks notice. |
Anonymous
I would tell her as I was walking out door that this was my last day . |
Anonymous
How unprofessional. |