mini vent

[Anonymous]

We hired a nanny a few months ago and got her a really nice gift that I KNOW she really appreciated; she was so grateful and teared up when she saw what it was. We gave it to her last week instead of waiting until her last day before Christmas since we knew she could use it right away. We also gave her a week's pay as bonus today (her last day). I wasn't expecting her to get me or DB anything, but I thought she would get DC a little something, even if it were a few bucks, but she didn't and I'm a little miffed. I am probably being oversensitive because I know it's not a given that nannies give their charges something, but still.

[Anonymous]

I understand completely. I am a nanny and I always get my charges something special for birthdays and Christmas/Hanukkah. It isn't appropriate to get my employers a gift but I love giving my sweet charges gifts -- I can't imagine why your nanny wouldn't do the same.

I am sorry, OP, I have never heard of a nanny not giving her charge a gift at the holidays.

[Anonymous]

Is your nanny an American? How old is she? She sounds young and foreign

[Anonymous]

You have her a gift with the expectation that she should, at a minimum, give your child a gift? This is not why you give gifts. Maybe she cannot afford, even a dollar, gift

[Anonymous]

I love my charges and cannot imagine not getting them a gift I know they will love.

I'm sorry OP. Not all nannies are loving. Too bad.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine not giving my charges a gift for Christmas or their birthday.

[Anonymous]

While I ALWAYS gift my charges for their birthdays & Christmas, I do understand that there are some Nannies that simply cannot afford to do so.

Nannies do not make a particularly "well-off" salary and if she is a single mother it may be difficult for her to provide everything her own family needs.

I.e., rental payments, utilities, cell phone bills, groceries, automobile payments/gas/insurance/maintenance, clothing, school supplies, etc.

The list never ends really.

Try to have more empathy when thinking about all of this OP + remember that you give gifts from the heart.
That there are no strings attached or expectations either.

[Anonymous]

OP - I agree with you on being turned off by this. While I agree you shouldn't give anything with the expectation of receiving, this kinda shows your nanny didnt care.
She could be the poorest of the nannies and she still could go to costco, target even walmart and get a stuffed animal and a card for $10. You know what they say, it's the intention that really matters?

Maybe she'll drop something off on actual xmas? Here's hoping ?

[Anonymous]

That's a bummer. I always try to get my kids something or take them somewhere for a special outing. Maybe she did something you're not aware of or stuck something under the tree without telling you? I do that sometimes. Other times I've been so broke that I couldn't even afford new socks or anything special for Xmas dinner or gifts for my parents, so try not to take it personally. If you're dead broke, you're dead broke. But definitely look under the tree in case she stuck something under there unnoticed.

[Anonymous]

Could be a money situation. Christmas is a very expensive time. She may also have been unsure as to whether it would be appropriate to give a gift. Some moms on here don't like us nannies buying their children presents. Personally, I always buy my charge a few gifts but never MB/DB.
Yes it would have been nice of her but don't assume the worst. Could be many, many reasons why she didn't.
If she is otherwise a fantastic nanny, I would let it go.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny I always have a gift for my charge and to my ex-charges. My best place to get good price toys is at IKEA!

[Anonymous]

The Twelve Days of Christmas start on Dec 25.
Maybe she's observing that time to give gifts.

[Anonymous]

My kid didn't get anything from his awesome nanny. I didn't think anything of it. She's Muslim and we're not terribly religious or into Christmas and she knows we think he already has way too many toys.

I understand your disappointment but perhaps she'll get him something next week. If she's otherwise great I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid didn't get anything from his awesome nanny. I didn't think anything of it. She's Muslim and we're not terribly religious or into Christmas and she knows we think he already has way too many toys.

I understand your disappointment but perhaps she'll get him something next week. If she's otherwise great I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it.

I'm Muslim nanny too and still give something to my charge.