Grandparents... VENT
![[Post New]](/nanny-forum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
Both sets of my charges grandparents are here for the holidays. Plus there is a new baby.
All rules for my 22 month old charge have gone out the window which, of course, makes him insecure and whiny. Plus all four grandparents talk to my charge constantly and at the same time. And they are giving me instructions and telling me what to do. I HATE IT!!! |
Anonymous
|
Talk to your MB.
She should talk to all the grandparents and tell them to let you do your routine with the kids. I've had a situation like this in the past with one grandma. My MB at the time talked to her and said that when I was there, I was in charge. I'm not sure exactly what she said, but me being in charge was the point. It changed things around 180 degrees - grandma was old and lived an hour away, close to MB's work, so she brought her home for 3-4 days EVERY week. It was really tough if I put kids in time out and she would go and hug them and say they could go play. Kids knew they had to listen to me, so they stayed in time out, but cried even more. Same thing with wiping butts. She would rush to the bathroom to do it for them (I think the boy was around 5 or 6). I tried to tell her that he needed to learn to do it on his own, especially because he was in school. DB totally backed me up on it one day when he came home from work early - the child started screaming from the bathroom for grandma (MB's mom) and she rushed over, but he stopped her right at the bathroom door. Soon after MB had a talk with her about me being in charge. It's tough. Hang in there and definitely talk to your MB. |
Anonymous
| Take him out as much as you can. I had situations like like with visitors and I would tell the kids we were going out and go do something. Library, the mall etc, just to get away from it all. Brought them back about 10 mins before I got off work. |
Anonymous
| Thanks for the responses but MB just had a new baby and I cannot add anything else to her plate right now. I hate this situation and I hate what the grandparents are doing to my poor charge but all four of them will be gone on January 2nd so I just have to grin (or grimace) and bear it. |
Anonymous
| Grandparents are the worst,OP. I am in a similar situation with just one set of grandparents visiting from out of town and it is ruining the holidays for me. Sucks. |
Anonymous
|
I hate being around pesky Grandparents too OP!!
It is a constant nightmare that never seems to end. At least they will be gone soon! Just learn to focus on that for now! The light at the end of the proverbial tunnel! 
|
Anonymous
| Toddlers plus grandparents or medling family members equals disaster. I would take him somewhere warm all day. Zoo, mall, play date, aquarium. |
Anonymous
|
I wish more MBs would pay attention to the difficult situations grandparents cause for the nanny and the child.
|
Anonymous
|
My favorite is when a grandmother tries to get me to side against her daughter or daughter-in-law on some issue regarding the child or the house. Like I am that stupid to take sides against my BOSS.
My sympathies, OP. Grandparents visiting is fricking hell and their bad influence on the charge lasts for a long time after they leave. |
Anonymous
No.no Tough. You are the nanny and it is your MB's job to tell them that YOU AND ONLY YOU are in charge. It is unconscionable that she is allowing this to take place. Be assertive for yourself because you are not their doormat. She had a baby not open heart surgery. |
Anonymous
Oh my, aren't you dramatic! OP, and all the other nannies complaining about grandparents (heaven forbid another adult be present when you are doing your job) need to figure out how to adapt to the situation or have an adult conversation.  How do some of you manage to exist in the real world?
|
Anonymous
Ha! Head over to the parenting side of the forum and read up on all of the bazillion threads about heinous in-laws. Many, mnay people find it difficult to care for small children while grandparents are around. Now imagine that you could lose your job if you offend that crazy MIL by pointing out that naptime isn't a silly game you made up but is actually a biological imperative for a baby/toddler. You can function just fine in the real world and still find that situation extremely frustrating. |
Anonymous
Oh, fuck off, Troll. |
Anonymous
Oh, my, aren't you stupid! PP, and all the other old people should really learn that you do not tell another person's employee what to do (heaven forbid another adult not think you are important). You need to understand that you are not the parent How do some of you old folks manage to exist in the real world?
|
Anonymous
|
"Oh my, aren't you dramatic! OP, and all the other nannies complaining about grandparents (heaven forbid another adult be present when you are doing your job) need to figure out how to adapt to the situation or have an adult conversation. How do some of you manage to exist in the real world?"
This from a person who never worked as a nanny with small children or a parent and we all know these days they are letting IPads do the babysitting so how can she know? OP honestly I think you should have gotten a few days off with all those people around to help out. If they are ready to give advice here and there then they can take on spending time with their grandkids....I mean that's what grandparents do. My MB always gave me time off with pay whenever her parents were in town or I would just come in a few days for a few hours if they had something to do out but the grandma loved spending time with her grandson and did not need me around. |