Absent and late nanny

[Anonymous]

We love our nanny of nearly four years but she's had a number of personal (and real) issues that has caused many late and missed work days - as in 5 weeks leave this summer, all paid and none planned. I'm at a loss as we just cannot maintain this but don't want to be unfair. I think we may not renew the contract when it's up in 6 months (3 months notice is in the contract). How do you approach this without sounding completey heartless?

[Anonymous]

Just say it. "We really need a nanny who can cover these hours. Although we feel for you, we need someone who can fulfill their commitment and it's clear you can't. So unfortunately we have to give you three months notice."

She's not your friend - she's your employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We love our nanny of nearly four years but she's had a number of personal (and real) issues that has caused many late and missed work days - as in 5 weeks leave this summer, all paid and none planned. I'm at a loss as we just cannot maintain this but don't want to be unfair. I think we may not renew the contract when it's up in 6 months (3 months notice is in the contract). How do you approach this without sounding completey


heartless?

No, just end with her,am a nanny I never do that,always I give 15 minutes early for my boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say it. "We really need a nanny who can cover these hours. Although we feel for you, we need someone who can fulfill their commitment and it's clear you can't. So unfortunately we have to give you three months notice."

She's not your friend - she's your employee.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I know you care about her and have built a relationship, but whether the relationship continues is a separate issue from whether her employment with you continues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know you care about her and have built a relationship, but whether the relationship continues is a separate issue from whether her employment with you continues.

Plus, if she thinks she can keep taking off time and being late then she's exploiting the OP, and the feelings OP has developed, BASED on the working relationship they previously had. Uncool of the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Did ANYONE on here see that the OP paid this nanny for five whole weeks w/little notice....???!!!

That in itself is a huge act of goodwill on her part.

OP, you are more generous than anyone I know.
And three months of notice is too long.

I say issue her her walking papers much sooner & be rid of this leech/"nanny."

[Anonymous]

You say that you just can't sustain this. She probably needs a more "traditional" job where absences can be covered. Being reliable is one of the three most important elements of a good nanny (trustworthy, reliable, good with your kid).