27 weeks prego nanny here

[Anonymous]

So....I haven't been sick and I've been able to arrange my appointments around my work schedule. I'm 27 weeks and I seriously only look chunky. I haven't told them yet because I'm honestly afraid they'll treat me different or replace me ASAP. My MB has certain opinions even though she had a baby herself. I haven't called out and honestly I still perform my job duties the same as before I was pregnant. I am going to tell them this week because they should know. I do feel guilty about waiting but like I said I haven't needed to ask off for being sick or dr's appointments. Three months is plenty of time to find someone correct? Would you be peeved? I haven't slacked at all!

[Anonymous]

They know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They know

Don't be so sure. I've been blown away on occasion by someone's announcement at work. You couldn't tell at all!

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure how I'd feel, but don't wait any longer if you want them to hold the job for you. If you're not planning to come back, then it doesn't matter.

Three months is plenty of time, but they need to find a replacement for you during your leave, and temporary, full time people are hard to find.

[Anonymous]

I agree that the longer you wait, the more problematic this situation will get.

Tell them soon.
It is against the law to fire you based on pregnancy.

Yes, three months is more than enough time to find a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that the longer you wait, the more problematic this situation will get.

Tell them soon.
It is against the law to fire you based on pregnancy.

Yes, three months is more than enough time to find a new nanny.

Outside of a few select states (Mass and NY that I know of), nannies are not eligible for workplace discrimination protections unless they are working for a family that employees at least 15 people.

In any case, they also aren't required to give her any maternity leave, paid or unpaid, and if the notice period is too short, they will just find a new full time nanny and tell her not to come back. They may do that anyway, but since she's been a good nanny while pregnant, it seems less likely if they time to find a temp replacement.

[Anonymous]

What reaction are you looking for? Are you not planning to come back or are you looking to bring your child with same pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What reaction are you looking for? Are you not planning to come back or are you looking to bring your child with same pay?

This is a critical question, the answer to which should determine how you approach the conversation.

Yes, three months is plenty of time for a family to find a new nanny. However, I'm not sure that asking the family to continue to employ you into your ninth month is reasonable.

A lot depends on the age and needs of the kid(s) for whom you nanny. I have twins - when they were toddlers I wouldn't have felt comfortable having a very pregnant nanny be responsible for chasing, lifting, carrying, catching, etc... When they were tiny, or now that they are older, I would feel (potentially) more comfortable but I would prioritize the safety and needs of my children above all else.

I would, however, absolutely plan to work with a valued nanny so that she could work as long as possible and then return to her job. I'd get a temporary nanny and we'd figure it all out - but it would take a really strong relationship between nanny and employer to want to work through that.

Congrats on your baby!