Help Please!

[Anonymous]

Hi a all,

I have Ben working with my current family for a month. Last week the 2 year old was diagnosed with mild autism. It's challenging especially having an infant in tow. His vocabulary is limited and meltdowns are ongoing. He does better with structure. It seems to limit the number of daily outbursts. Outings are a struggle at times due to noises and crowds. I do try to get him out to places where I have taken other charges and know how crowded/loud it will be.

Another issue is the grandmother is here from another country and will be here til October. She was staying with a relative due to an illness but is back here. The poor kid is completely thrown off. He has screamed, cried, banged his head on the floor repeatedly just because she's here. This also happens if the father comes home early and his day is thrown. He was finally taken off the bottle when the grandmother was away but she tried to give him one day. Both are napping now so hopefully the day will improve!

I'm at a loss. I've nannied for a very LONG time and not sure what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

Exactly. This family will never care about their child half as much as you do. Get out asap.

[Anonymous]

Yikes!

You have a double whammy here.

A challenging child along w/a Grandmother around for another few months.

Hopefully you are being paid extremely well.
If not, then it would be in your bestest interest to leave this daily challenging situation & find a much better family to work for.

To me, the stress would so not even be worth it.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I think part of being a nanny is to be able to reinforce rules and "be the boss" while on duty. You're saying you have s structure? Great, enforce it! Doesn't matter if the grandma/dad is there. Just tell them nicely how you plan your day, show them what works best, and ask them to follow around. Shouldn't really be this hard , be in charge! It's your job! Hope that helps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think part of being a nanny is to be able to reinforce rules and "be the boss" while on duty. You're saying you have s structure? Great, enforce it! Doesn't matter if the grandma/dad is there. Just tell them nicely how you plan your day, show them what works best, and ask them to follow around. Shouldn't really be this hard , be in charge! It's your job! Hope that helps

This 100%. Nannies have to lay down the law with relatives and even parents sometimes. It is YOUR job and if they want you to do it well you need to be stress free and have a voice. That's the only way you can make sure their kids are safe and happy. If they want a well rounded child that is coping with special needs they need to be sure relatives understand how important routine and consistency is for him. If the parents are t on the same page with you being in charge of the kids while on the clock then you need to move on asap because they don't care about their kids or you. Grandmothers that like to interfere that way are a pain. They butt in here and there but when you aren't there probably could care less. They get territorial. Please put your foot down now. Hopefully there is also an area like a play room or basement where you can set up a play area to be away from others when you aren't able to get out of the house.

Good luck and don't be a punk! I guarantee they don't want the hassle of looking for another nanny and will have to have your back.