Salary Questions about "Nannyshare" with SAHM as Caretaker

[Anonymous]

Thank you in advance. I'm in Alexandria (just outside the beltway 22310).

I've had a caretaker for over two years who's taken care of my son since he was an infant along with her own 2 children. We pay her $2k a month = $24k ($11.50/hour) - under the table at her request.

When I have another child ready for care, she proposed an increase from $2k to $3.5k a month = $42k ($20/hour). We were planning to offer $30k ($14.50/hour) since my older son will be in preschool 3 days a week for a total of nine hours.

Does anyone else have a nannyshare with a stay at home mom and can share what they pay? It's a bit different since when her children are sick/have appointments, we take PTO and keep our child at home.

If we went to a traditional nannyshare, what's the average pay in Alexandria for each family?

Do our rates seem fair? $42k a year seems like that's pay when you're not in a share but it's hard to tell from what we read on the boards.

[Anonymous]

Good for nanny. If she gets you to jump from 11.50 to $20 an hour wow! For one baby? Hah

[Anonymous]

You've got a fairly unusual situation, but coming at it from just the numbers, it's a huge rate increase. I think (not in DC area) the usual increase for a new child is $1-2 or about that.

If you're offering $20 an hour you might as well get your own nanny who will come to your house (it sounds like you bring your kid to hers?), do kit related tasks and who won't depend on her own children's schedule, etc.

If you're very happy with her, though, of course, meet her in the middle. She's negotiating, so you negotiate as well.

But the fact that your oldest will be in preschool 9 hrs a week shouldn't be a factor - presumably you would still need her for all the days that the school is out, the kid is sick, snow days, etc, so you would be unhappy if she took another job for those 9 hours. Unless, of course, you plan to cover those days yourselves.

[Anonymous]

That's a lot of money of doing it in her house with her two kids. I'd hire a nanny to come to your house for your kids only.

[Anonymous]

No way. For that price you could have your own nanny at your house. Extra kid, $1-2 raise/hr. On the lower end since she gets to bring her own kid.

[Anonymous]

Is she doing this at her house? Because it sounds like home daycare, not a nannyshare. Usually in home daycares the price doubles when you add a second kid.

If she's coming to your house, then that's a little different, but even in a true nanny share, if you had 2 kids you'd pay significantly more. For example, if you had 2 kids and the other person had 1 you'd pay close to 2/3. If $11.50 was 1/2, so the nanny was payed $23 an hour, it would be reasonable to bump her to $27, 2/3 of which is $18. If $11.50 was 1/3, then she'd be making $34.50. Assuming you just bump a little, to $36, half (since you now have 1/2 the kids in the share) is still $18.

[Anonymous]

Yeah no way. Too many kids for that new price and you lose the convenience of the nanny at your house. I'd look for an alternate arrangement.

[Anonymous]

You're getting ripped off.

I had a nanny come to my house, do my laundry, grocery shop, and tidy the house for $17/hr. She started when my youngest was 10 weeks and my oldest 3yrs.