Twin toodlers lying to their mum as my work as their Nanny

[Anonymous]

I am a full time Nanny of twins 3 (almost 4) year old girls and a 12 year old boy and a 13 year old boy. Their parents are business owners so they work very long hours so in turn I work between 50-60 hours a week.

I absolutely adore the twins, they have really got a special place in my heart and we have a wonderful relationship.

The boys are good kids too at the end of the day but they do like to pull the teenaged sort of stuff fairly often.

There are been some major issues within the family unit and the way it effects my job lately. The parents work 14 hour days, they live in a VERY large and affluent house that I expected to clean, cook, bake, do laundry, iron, dishes, vacuuming ect (which was not in the job description) and both the girls and boys behaviour over the last 3-4 weeks has been concerning me with lots and lots of fights for the little one (bites, hair pulling, totally inconsolable meltdowns, kicking, scratching me ect) and they boys have just absolutely no respect for my authority.

I barely get to see the parents as they work a lot so I have been trying to initiate a sit down to try to talk about some issues that have arrised lately and how we can resolve them. I ended up sending and email last night and when I got to work today they were there ready at the table with the children in the next room and say me down like I was a child getting in trouble. We talked about numerous things(including the insisted that when they advertised the job they were very upfront about the amount of house work I would have to do, which is not true because I wouldn't have taken the job as I view myself as a Childcare provider, not a housekeeper) but the mother then brought up that the girls had told them I had taken them to some of my friends houses and she just thought that was over stepping the line. I we in shock because I have never once taken them to anyone's house but their own or their grandmothers but she did not seem to believe me. This really made me very upset as she now no longer trusts me to take the girls on outings as she is concerned for their welfare. When info take the girls on outings I taken them to places like the park, shorncliffe jetty, story time at the Libary, the city cat and the museum. So I really have no idea where this would have got lost in translation.

The other part of this that really frustrates me about this is that apparently the girls told their mother about these apparent visits over a month ago and the reason I brought it up was all of a sudden she started leaving notes for me not to take them out of the house. So I was quite annoyed that she didn't discuss it with me at the time and started leaving passive aggressive notes instead.

Has anyone on here been through similar experiences? Has anyone else had charges who tell complete lies about what you do or say during the day? Or does anyone have any advice?

Kindest regards and thanks again guys

[Anonymous]

Leave. Unless you are unusually unemployable for some reason, you can do better.

[Anonymous]

Why are you staying?

[Anonymous]

It's high time to move on and reclaim your status as a nanny instead of a doormat. Any questions about that, OP? You are doing those children a great DIS-service by allowing this horrific treatment of yourself. These parents are hopeless. Believe me. Please just allow a new family into your life so you can start over with strong, healthy boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Time to move on. If the kids lied about that who knows what else they could lie about. I would start looking for a new job now.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like this MB is taking her 3 yr. old daughters words over yours.

Outrageous and unacceptable in my book.

I would leave if I could afford to leave.
If not now, then start planning a strategic good bye.

I could never work for someone who had zero trust in me + my capabilities.

[Anonymous]

You're getting out of that hell hole, aren't you?