My live in nanny/housekeeper

[Anonymous]

So...she has been with us for 3 years now and lived with us since October. She lives with us rent free/all expenses paid. She works with my three children (1 in school all day) (2 half day), she doesn't drive so she uses our account to get rides (uber). Lately, I think she has become spoiled. I always get little things for her, manicures, hotel room for her birthday, etc. she has her own level floor which includes bathroom, kitchen and room. She works about 10 hours some days and some days 4-6. We also travel a lot (gone three weeks in December) gone for a 8 days in April and a week in May and wil be gone most of the summer. She gets plenty of time off and we always pay her. When we are away she takes care of the dog and fish that's all that's asked of her and she cleans before we return home. Lately she's been complaining about her pay and hourly pay, etc. I think our time together has ended and I truly believe she has become very spoiled being with us. I'm not sure how to explain to her that she has it so good! Before coming to us she had no experience with children. We love her so much but it's taking a toll on me. She has given us one more year- and then wants to take off for three months (vacation) and then work part-time somewhere. Not sure how that will work out.

Would love to hear thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want people to weigh in on if she's spoiled? It's a job. She has told you she will work for you one more year and then she's moving on. Sounds like everyone will come out happy.

What's the issue? You want us to tell you she should feel grateful or something? Does your employer ask that of you?

[Anonymous]

Yes- actually...I'm very grateful for her and most families are not grateful for their caregivers or treat them well. I know this from living in this area for some time and seeing the treatment parents give to their housekeepers/nannys.

Would love to hear the going rate for a live in? Do you pay when you travel? Do they pay rent? Do they pay Internet/cable/food/clothing?

[Anonymous]

Minimum wage in DC is 10.50!

I should leave my high paying 90 hour a week job and become a nanny because the families in NW are paying everything for them and a better salary then I get. It's ridiculous she should be grateful to have a job. Does she have a HS diploma? Is she legal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes- actually...I'm very grateful for her and most families are not grateful for their caregivers or treat them well. I know this from living in this area for some time and seeing the treatment parents give to their housekeepers/nannys.

Would love to hear the going rate for a live in? Do you pay when you travel? Do they pay rent? Do they pay Internet/cable/food/clothing?

You are making something very simple into something emotional and far too complex. Either you are overpaying her (when you add in all the extras) or you aren't. And either way- so what? What is it you want from her or from yourself?

Generally live ins are paid a few dollars less an hour than live out nannies, and have internet/cable and sometimes food paid for. Not clothing.

[Anonymous]

OP, how much do you pay her? Do you provide health insurance? Does she have vacation days of her choosing? Are there any restrictions associated with her living environment? Can she have a significant other over? Does she have curfew?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes- actually...I'm very grateful for her and most families are not grateful for their caregivers or treat them well. I know this from living in this area for some time and seeing the treatment parents give to their housekeepers/nannys.

Would love to hear the going rate for a live in? Do you pay when you travel? Do they pay rent? Do they pay Internet/cable/food/clothing?

Like any other nanny, live ins get a fixed per-hour rate and paid vacation. If you travel for 9 weeks, they still get paid. They do not get rent- that is part of the compensation. They don't pay for utilities that are tied to the house, like wifi or cable, but pay for their own clothing and cell phone. Generally they are paid 10-15/hour depending on where in the DMV they are located and experience.

[Anonymous]

OP is the spoiled one. Most nannies wouldn't put up with her.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP, she DOES have it pretty good (considering you are currently paying her a good wage.)

That is the main thing here.

If you are giving her all these perks, but are paying her a less than fair wage then the perks mean zilch.

However if her pay is very good + she gets to enjoy the extra perks offered she may feel after three years it is time for a raise.

If she is getting a ton of free time being financially compensated then yes, she is certainly spoiled.

But that would depend on a few variables.

Most important:
How much is she currently being paid?

[Anonymous]

What is her hourly rate ? How much does she make each week. How many hours does she work each week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is the spoiled one. Most nannies wouldn't put up with her.

Based on what evidence??

[Anonymous]

How much does she make and how many hours a week. Minimum wage for a nanny of 3 children is pretty terrible if that's what you pay her. She's watching your kids... You get what you pay for.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you answer these questions? My guess is you aren't "spoiling" your nanny as much as you think you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Minimum wage in DC is 10.50!

I should leave my high paying 90 hour a week job and become a nanny because the families in NW are paying everything for them and a better salary then I get. It's ridiculous she should be grateful to have a job. Does she have a HS diploma? Is she legal?

Do you have a HS diploma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much does she make and how many hours a week. Minimum wage for a nanny of 3 children is pretty terrible if that's what you pay her. She's watching your kids... You get what you pay for.

Exactly. OP???