Red flags?

[Anonymous]

Our nanny seems great. The kids cry when she leaves, ect..everything is always orderly when we get home but not sure I like why.

We asked her to bath the kids and some days after a messy lunch she will bath them and then not go outside the rest of the day.

She sometimes moves stroller to make it look like she's gone out and says the have gone to the park. I asked doorman when I got suspicious.

To avoid a mess in bathroom she baths them in the sink.

It seems like she has a checklist and finds the most efficient way to do everything even if it means the kids not being kids or playing outside, messy projects

She doesn't let them watch TV so I have no idea how she keeps them occupied.

For a while she had my 12 month olds on a 4 hour nap schedule. They still sttn. But still... 4-5 hr naps then, eating and bath. It seems like she doesn't want to interact with them?

I might be overreacting. Are these actual red flags?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter what we think OP. If you're comfortable with the level of care she provides, then let her go. In my opinion, your nanny sounds lazy. Some children do sleep more than others, but not getting them out for any activities or playtime is unacceptable. Her lying about it is a big red flag.

Sometimes children do things beyond our control ( baby sleeping late so we miss a class, etc), but you decide how you want your children to spend their days. I would look for a replacement.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Yes, they are red flags!

One of these might be cause for talking to your nanny. All of them should cause massive concern.

[Anonymous]

She's not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me as if your nanny likes to do the "bare minimum" regarding her job duties.

Either that, or she has a bit of a "neat freak" complex which may or may not be a good asset.
In your situation it doesn't sound like it works in your favor.

I think it's great that she leaves your home picked up & tidy when you get home and that your children are clean + bathed.

However if she is lying about taking them to the park, etc., than that would be a definite red flag in my opinion.

Considering she is in charge of your kids, you absolutely need to trust her 100%. No exceptions.

She seems to be a little sneaky as well as deceitful and I couldn't leave my young children in her care and go to work w/a clear conscience.

I would speak to her directly first then give her her walking papers immediately.

And not look back!

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I really can't imagine a "nanny" not wanting to take children to the park. Where did you find her? What did her refs say?

[Anonymous]

This nanny sounds pretty sneaky op. I'd be concerned. Is it possible to install cameras around to ease your mind?

[Anonymous]

Does she keep a daily log listing what she does each day? Sign kids up for classes and activities and tell her they must attend. Get a nanny cam to see what's really going on. Make it clear that lying is a reason for termination

[Anonymous]

Good lord, what nanny WOULDNT want to get out of the house?

Are your expectations clear and reasonable OP? As in, "if they get a bath after a messy lunch it's fine if they get a little dirty at the playground." She may be concerned about hitting all your targets and you may need to be more upfront and/or reasonable about what you're asking.

Although bathing kids in the sink is pretty weird, I actually find that much more challenging than a tub. Did you ask her why she prefers that? And is it a problem?