Embarrassed about my job
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Anonymous
| I started nannying and I haven't told friends or family because I'm embarrassed. I also dislike doing others household chores like laundry and cooking. I really don't want to tell anyone I know that I'm doing this. Have you ever felt embarrassed? |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you should be in a different profession then OP. Why did you choose a line of work that you're ashamed of? |
Anonymous
| No never. I love being a nanny. I went to college and I work in my chosen field. Best job in the world ! |
Anonymous
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No never. My husband work with aerospace company and I'm just stay at home mom. I have 12 yrs nanny experience. When we have our own child I stopped. I just started again last 2 year.
I only care for the child no house works. I guess the parents feel embarrassed to ask me to do it when they know I just watch their child with low pay ($10 an hour). I live near the Univ and most of my client is the Uni professor. |
Anonymous
| If you're embarrassed about what you do, you need to do something else. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I do need to do something else. Washing a stranger's kids clothes and wiping them after they use the bathroom was not in my life plan. |
Anonymous
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I had a job working for the federal government for 33 years. For the last four years I have been a part-time nanny. I occasionally run into former colleagues. When I tell them that I am a nanny now, half say "OMG. that is the perfect job for you! Good for you!" The other half say negative things like, "Eww, you work with kids. Yuck." Or "Nanny - there is not much money in that." Or something along the lines of "You should still be climbing the corporate ladder with all your professional experience and training. You should get a real job."
So sometimes other people seem to be embarrassed for me that I am a nanny these days, but I enjoy it so much that I don't really care what others say. As a nanny, I get about 8 hugs a day. I don't think I got 8 hugs total in the 33 years I had a "real" job. |
Anonymous
Then go do something else. Why come here? There are lots of nannies who genuinely love what they do. Like teaching it isn't a profession that can really be done well unless the person enjoys their work. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
OP don't listen to these people. Its ok to vent and be honest about how you feel. Being a "nanny" can definitely have a certain stigma attached to it. I love what I do but sort of understand and feel the same way. I was a teacher for years. Im an extremely introverted person and I also have the need to be in charge. The types of environments that I am certified to teach in is not traditional yet I love the method. However working with catty co workers and bosses that were complete idiots most of the time drove me up the wall. I left teaching again 2 years ago to go back to "nannying" and still feel a twinge of embarrassment at the thought of actually calling myself that. My family has a lot of educators in it and I actually earn more than most of them nannying lol. I still get to work with kids yet don't have the headache of co workers etc to deal with and whenever I get hired with a family I make it known that I am an educating nanny and that my focus is on child development not making sure their household runs smooth, cleaning, or running errands for them. I have actually began calling myself a "In home child development specialist" and I seek out positions that have children with learning disabilities, behavioral issues, or special needs, yet the family still needs someone around full time. I even have meetings with the parents and give them tips and ideas so that we can all help rear their child in the right direction so that they can become an independent adult that can contribute to society. So many people can give birth but don't have a lick of intuition for raising them. I help with this. Sometimes I tell people what I do, sometimes I don't. Just tell people you work in the early childhood education field and keep it moving. I would suggest that you find families that have house keepers etc and just be up front that you don't do chores. There are tons of people that don't require this. Especially if your rate is high enough and you have the education and experience to back you up. |
Anonymous
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I am actually proud of what I do since I see my "work" as more than earning a weekly paycheck.
I personally feel I am contributing to the future success of a child. Whether it's teaching good manners or learning the ABCs, I would hope that I can make a positive impact on someone else's child. Besides....ALL jobs are important and thus carry a certain amount of dignity. |
Anonymous
| I do need another job. Most of my family members employ nannies and housekeepers and gardening help and have vacation homes. So to tell them I'm a nanny is just embarrassing. |
Anonymous
are you the op? maybe you should go work for one of your family members... |
Anonymous
Umm, not a chance. Would you do that? |
Anonymous
So get another job. However, you're unlikely to be able to afford the same things immediately (and possibly ever, depending on your field, ambition and luck). Why are you so caught up in what your relatives have versus whether you are happy? |