Dealing with parents stepping in and being mean/rude
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Anonymous
| So I have a issue the other day I felt disrespected by the children grandmother when it happen I did nothing I went home and told my husband and he was pissed next day I went to work and felt as if I was being treated like the "help" it really hurt my feelings to the point I cried most of the day I know I haven't gave much on what happen but with the info I gave what would you do |
Anonymous
| You obviously have low self-esteem issues. If you really want to attack your overall problem, you should do some work with a good therapist. Are you really serious about this? |
Anonymous
Wow you have mental issues honey. |
Anonymous
You cried most of the day? Really? And you don't want professional help? |
Anonymous
Op here not sure how you came up with that but ok |
Anonymous
1. How often do you cry "most of the day"? 2. How do you do your work while you are crying "most of the day"? 3. Or are you simply trolling this morning? 
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Anonymous
| Called HER out..... dumb op troll. |
Anonymous
| Op here you all are missing the point I cried because I was upset and felt as if I was being taken advantage of and hurt by their actions |
Anonymous
| What all happened op? You're not giving any details so it's hard to say if you were mistreated |
Anonymous
| Please use periods so your posts are easier to read. |
Anonymous
Op again you're right I didn't give much details because Mb is on site daily sorry but what I want to know is how would you tell your boss that you thought her mom disrespected you or should I not say anything |
Anonymous
Ok just forget it I didn't know this was high school |
Anonymous
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MB here.
I consider it my job to make sure when we have extended family or other guests, that they understand our nanny is in charge. Grandparents specifically are managed to try to minimize the stress they impose on the nanny, the extent to which they disrupt the schedule, and to control as much as possible the interactions so our nanny's aggravation is as little as possible. So I would talk to your employers. Try to remove as much emotion as you can from how you approach it (as that will make it easier for them to handle) and just be factual. "Grandma Jen did and said some things that I'd like to talk to you about." Then give the specifics. Then be prepared to ask for what you want/need and see if they understand and will back you up. I think a certain amount of this goes with the job of nannying, so you will probably face this several times, but I also think parents have to do their job in minimizing and managing this. I hope your employers will step up. If possible, try not to take it so personally. Grandparents are wonderful, but also quite challenging for parents also. It's a pretty common dynamic so it's more about the roles than the people. They would make anyone in your position (possibly) feel crummy - it's not you. Good luck. |
Anonymous
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Oh dear - we have grandparents here this week!!! I hope this is not my nanny!
OP, please talk to your MB about this situation. Don't take offense as grandparents generally are older and not always diplomatic. It is a generational thing.... |
Anonymous
Punctuation is taught in elementary school. I was assuming English was not your first language based on your initial post.. More people will be able to read what you wrote if you use punctuation. I'm trying to help you to get more help here. |