Should I ask my nanny
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Anonymous
| Hello all I'm new here is it ok to ask my nanny to do my husband and my Landry and do our shopping be nice please |
Anonymous
| Discuss before you hire. Some are okay with it, many are not. |
Anonymous
| It really depends on the circumstances. Yes if it was discussed prior to hiring, or if it wasn't but you plan to compensate extra and are okay if she says no. No it is not okay if it wasn't discussed prior to hiring, and you just want her add to her duties but not increase compensation, and especially not if you will hold it against her if she says no. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't mind as long as you offer compensation. If you want her to do it for free, no. |
Anonymous
| See the skid-marked underwear thread. No one wants to do your personal laundry. Maybe you need to be a bit more thoughtful: |
Anonymous
Pardon my typo. |
Anonymous
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Some nannies are willing to do laundry (and are more willing to do that than other housekeeping tasks). Some nannies are more willing to cook for parents. Some nannies don't mind doing the grocery shopping. You need to talk to your nanny, make sure that she has the time to do what you want and offer extra compensation. Make sure that she has whatever supplies she wants and needs (dye- and fragrance-free detergent, stain remover spray, etc.). Please be aware that ironing takes a long time, most nannies won't agree to more than an hour of ironing each week if they agree to even that.
If you want the nanny to do your grocery shopping, you need to have a plan for how she will pay for the groceries. Will you give her a set amount of cash every week? Will you give her a store gift card? Will you do a prepaid debit card? Will you give her a credit card in her name attached to your account? Most nannies won't be willing to do your shopping if you intend to reimburse her after she uses her own money. |
Anonymous
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personally, I don't want anything to do with your underwear and that goes double for dirty underwear. But other nannies might feel differently. I wouldn't mind shopping so long as you tell me exactly what you want...are you brand specific about somethings and not others? Note that. Do you want organic for some things and not others? I need to know exactly what you want. And don't ask me to plan your menus, that never ends well for any of us. BTDT, won't do it again.
In short, just talk to her about what you need, what you want (not always the same thing as needs) and see what you can mutually agree upon. |
Anonymous
| If she agrees to do your husband will you supply condoms? Pay for her birth control? |
Anonymous
Same here. I do kids laundry and bedding but have no interest in your dirty underwear, that's what housekeepers are for. I do not mind grocery shopping and other assistant type errands. |
Anonymous
| Yuck. |
Anonymous
| If you do ask, offer a raise to compensate the new work. |
Anonymous
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You could ask, but if you've already signed the contract and laundry wasn't discussed, it can put the nanny in an awkward position. Will you be put out if she says no and start looking for new nanny that WILL do it? The nanny might worry about that and agree to it even if she doesn't want to--and that can cause resentment.
I think the best way to approach it is to plan to hire out help for the laundry and shopping and give the nanny "right of first refusal" to take on these additional tasks in exchange for higher pay. |
Anonymous
| Troll. Seriously - this is barely written in English! |
Anonymous
| Op here pp may I ask how |