Nanny for 3 infants
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Anonymous
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My sister and I are both expecting in June/August.
She is having twins in June and I am expecting a single in August. We want to do a nanny share together starting in December/January so the babies will be 7/8 months and 5/6 months at the time of the nanny share. Is this a terrible idea? What should we expect to pay the nanny per hour? How should we split it? like 2/5 and 3/5 since she has 2 more kids? How do we go about finding a nanny for this situation? |
Anonymous
| What is your reasoning behind 2/5 and 3/5 instead of 1/3 and 2/3 cost split? Just curious. |
Anonymous
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Wow. Congratulations!
That's a lot of babies, and a lot of work (I'm a mom of twins) so you will need a top notch nanny. Where are you? If you're in the DC area you probably need to plan for at least a $25/hr rate to get the level of experience and skill you will want (and perhaps more depending on the number of hours, level of experience you want, whether or not any of the babies may need specialized care, etc...) But splitting the costs ought to make that feasible. How to split the costs is probably a more personal decision given that you're sisters but that may also make it easier. I think the twin parent should pay more, but maybe the twin parent would also be the host location (which has some advantages) so perhaps that levels the costs a bit as all the wear and tear and extra gear will be on that house. How wonderful for the kids to grow up together like this though! Re finding a nanny - I would immediately join/contact your local parents of multiples group. They will know of nannies w/ multiples experience. There's a strong likelihood that someone will have had triplets so might even be able to offer nannies w/ triplet experience - which would be fantastic for you. The summer is also a great time to hire as many families will let long-term nannies go when kids start school. So you should be well-positioned in the marketplace. Congrats and good luck in the search! |
Anonymous
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Congratulations on your August baby, OP.
I can almost guarantee you that this plan will not be practical at any price, unless both sets of parents have dangerously low expectations. From your post, I can clearly see that's not the case. Just being realistic and honest, OP. -Longtime Share Nanny |
Anonymous
I'm not the OP, but how exactly are you being helpful here? Do you have constructive advice? Do you want to share what you suggest they look for or plan for or try to avoid in terms of potential challenges? Or do you just want to be Debbie Downer? |
Anonymous
Like I said, just being realistic and honest based on everything I know. Why does that disturb you so much? |
Anonymous
I agree with Debbie Downer. Plus, OP asked if this was insane. It is. |
Anonymous
| How is it "constructive" to tell this mom this is a good idea? |
Anonymous
| I'm a nanny who has done shares with up to 4 kids and I think 3 babies is pretty insane. One baby plus 2-3 toddlers is OK though. It's really about the ages and personality of the kids (which you won't know until later, obviously.) Even the BEST nanny would find this difficult, especially if they're all teething or sick and she has PMS or isn't feeling well herself, that could make for a really long day/week. That said, it's certainly *possible*, just maybe not ideal on a regular basis. That's A LOT of work. Once the kids are 18 mo old and walking/talking/one nap a day it would be easier. |
Anonymous
10:56? Are you someone who hurried back to the office as soon as you were able? I doubt you've done much full time baby care for just one, let alone three. |
Anonymous
Good question for 10:56, PP. |
Anonymous
| Thanks - this is OP and this is useful. Sounds like this is NOT a good choice! |
Anonymous
| There are nannies who work with triplets, and while they are pricey, they wouldn't be as pricey as two separate nannies. The first year will be hard, but then the job gets easier. I wouldn't give up this idea so quickly. |
Anonymous
Why not explain the reasons so that OP understands? |
Anonymous
I'm with this poster. It may take some work but you will certainly be able to find someone who is up for this; were I still in the field I would love this position. Three babies will be a challenge but not impossible, and while each might not get the individual attention that they would with their own nanny, they will get to grow up with their cousins (that would be worth the trade off IMO)! My only suggestion would be to see if you can work your schedules or hire someone so your nanny has a helper a few hours a day. |