GPS tracker on car seat
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Anonymous
Ok nannies I need your help. I'm a nanny for a sweet little girl who is 11 months old. When I accepted the job, we discussed outings and driving. Her parents wanted me to take her to the library and other outings. For the first month, we would go on 2-3 outings per week and everything was fine. About a month later, they started asking me to stay around this house with her and then asked for the car seat back with no explanation. Fastforward a few more months and we are going on outings again. As I was buckleing my charge into the car seat the other day, I noticed a gps tracker on the car seat base. I was not told this was there and I feel a little violated. I text MB when we leave the house, when we arrive at the destination, when we leave, and when we get home. I was told they have nanny cameras which I am fine with, and honestly I probably wouldn't feel upset if I had known about the tracker. So what do I do? I would be fine not driving as they live in a walkable neighborhood. I'm just feeling a little violated and taken back. Any advice or BTDT? Thanks for reading 
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Anonymous
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Is the car seat in your private car? If so I would definitely take it out each night before I leave.
I also would consider leaving this job if it's your own car as I think they need to tell you about a tracker in your own car, especially of the seat stays in you car. |
Anonymous
| Yes, this is my own car. I take the seat out each night as I share it with DB. Is this even legal? |
Anonymous
| I would never be able to trust these people after this. They don't trust you and never will. Move on. |
Anonymous
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Let me see if I understand this. Child is now 11 months. 1 month of 2-3 outings per week, with texts notifying of location.A few months of not going anywhere in the car, no explanations, and they had the carseat. Now you're going places with the car again, but the carseat has a GPS tracker hooked to the base?
They don't trust you. It sounds like you've been with the family for at least 3 months, and if they can't trust you after that long, they never will. I don't know what the legality is for them tracking the carseat, but I would not agree to it in my vehicle. If they were providing a vehicle, that would be fine with me. I would approach them and let them know I had found it. I would be honest and say that I found it insulting, especially as I had been working for them for several months and they knew I would probably have agreed (given no protest to the nanny cams). I would make sure that they understood that I was no longer willing to drive my vehicle with their child; we could stay home, walk, or they could provide a vehicle. I would also point out that any deceptive or sneaky behavior is cause for termination, and it doesn't matter whether it comes from them or me, per my contract. Good luck, OP. It's always hard when the parents are deceptive and/or sneaky. |
Anonymous
I couldn't agree more! IMO, once trust has been broken it is almost next to impossible to get it back. They could have offered full disclosure after they returned the car seat to you, but they elected to deceive you. No relationship can be successful once the integrity is gone. If you stay, you will always be wondering just what else they are hiding from you. I say leave. Who needs the stress?? |
Anonymous
| Get your reference letter and leave. |
Anonymous
| Take the GPS tracker and stick it in DBs car. When MB checks it during the day she will see you at DBs office and think hes having an affair. Then quit. Maybe they will get a divorce and you will be even for the betrayal MB did. MB was not OK. |
Anonymous
| If this was your child, what would you do |
Anonymous
I didn't leave my child with a person I didn't trust. -Single mother What's your excuse? |
Anonymous
I would try talking to my child's caregiver, not assume that she's doing something. I would communicate rather than go a route of deception and sneakiness. |
Anonymous
Op here. If this was my child and I felt the need to put a GPS tracker on the car seat, I would either have a dicussion with the nanny or find another caregiver. I've worked hard to build a good relationship with the parents and the child. I have not given them any reason not to trust me. I just wish they would have either told me they were putting the tracker on the car seat or had a discussion about our working relationship. |
Anonymous
| OP here again. Thank you all for the replies and advice. I have about 12 weeks left with this family so I am going to have a conversation and say that I am no longer willing to drive the child for the remaining of my time. Thanks again for the responses. |
Anonymous
If you have a finite amount of time with the family, that sounds like the best plan, especially as you said the neighborhood is walkable. Good luck, OP! |
Anonymous
| Be prepared for the mommy temper tantrum. Can you afford to be unemployed? These parents may be unstable. |