Best way to end a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I am thinking about ending my relationship with my current nanny family. I have to give a month notice but not sure how to address this properly. I've had issue in the past giving notice and being burn. I just can not take being walked all over and being treated like I'm a no body. It's so horrible it makes me want to make a career move.

[Anonymous]

Tell them how much you love them, but you need to help someone sick. This is how to avoid a meltdown. Get your reference letter no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Have they broken your contract in any way? My strategy is to write a letter detailing the violations of the agreement, but acknowledging positive aspects of the relationship, and stating that you are giving X weeks of notice as a *courtesy*. This works because I write my contracts to say that persistent violation of the terms can result in immediate termination. Then they feel like the notice is an act of good will, which it is, and they behave during that time because they know I won't hesitate to leave.

As far as the reference letter, I make sure I get formal evaluations every 6 months, and then they'd look kinda crazy if they tried to give a reference that was wildly different than the glowing evaluations. I also find that giving them the 4 weeks of notice and leaving on as good terms as possible gives everyone time to rebound from the news and end positively, rather than angry that they were dumped and had to scramble.

[Anonymous]

MB here.

Find another job first.

It's easier to find a job when you have one, easier to give notice when you are saying that you are moving to another position, and easier to manage concerns about references from your current employer while they are still your employer. (A prospective new employer will understand you not being able to provide your current employer's information more than they will understand if you no longer work for them.)

So find your next position and then give notice. Then you can just say how much you appreciated your time with them, but you have accepted another position that offers you XYZ.

You also then know that even if your current employers behave or react poorly that you will not be out of work for any extended period of time.

If at all possible do not give notice until you have another job lined up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here.

Find another job first.

It's easier to find a job when you have one, easier to give notice when you are saying that you are moving to another position, and easier to manage concerns about references from your current employer while they are still your employer. (A prospective new employer will understand you not being able to provide your current employer's information more than they will understand if you no longer work for them.)

So find your next position and then give notice. Then you can just say how much you appreciated your time with them, but you have accepted another position that offers you XYZ.

You also then know that even if your current employers behave or react poorly that you will not be out of work for any extended period of time.

If at all possible do not give notice until you have another job lined up.

+1

[Anonymous]

You can be sure theybeill let you go immediately so have a New job so you aren't burned. Good luck.