Expectations suck

[Anonymous]

Just a rant. I always expect nothing from people but this one time I thought maybe just maybe these people will come through. Maybe they will follow up on promises made. Maybe they will see what I do. Maybe they respect how hard I work.

I was wrong and now equally angry and heartbroken. Lesson learned. I won't let my guard down again.

[Anonymous]

good fences make good neighbors. Never give more than you're willing to give freely and without expectation of anything in return. If you'd be pissed for at yourself if the relationship falls apart, then dial it back. If you'd be pissed at yourself for giving too little, then ramp it up.

[Anonymous]

Try not to be jaded by the actions of other people OP.

So much easier said than done I know. Very well.

There are some wonderful families around...Far and few between I do admit, but they DO exist! Hope you find one soon.

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

sorry you've never had a job where that happened. I used to work for customer service at a bank and stiff like that happened a lot. I always got bonuses and gift cards and at the end of the year, I was a top 5% banker and was treated to an all expense paid trip to Mexico. Not all office jobs suck or are thankless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

sorry you've never had a job where that happened. I used to work for customer service at a bank and stiff like that happened a lot. I always got bonuses and gift cards and at the end of the year, I was a top 5% banker and was treated to an all expense paid trip to Mexico. Not all office jobs suck or are thankless.

I worked in a dealership and in retail prior to nannying. In both cases, I received holiday bonuses, raises for a certain number of hours and certain level of performance, a gift card for my birthday, my birthday off (paid, but not requested), decent vacation, time and a half if I was told to work the holiday or double time if I volunteered, decent sick days. Oh, and everyone received a bonus after the numbers were run for the year.

Please, tell me again that job performance isn't noted? I'm sorry that you have an employer who only notices the negatives, but most good managers/employers give positive and negative feedback.

[Anonymous]

I worked in marketing for a food products company. We got to choose between $15 gifts from a catalog at the end of the year. No bonus and low pay. You were expected to do a very good job and you heard about it when you didn't. All the managers were men. If you don't like how you are being treated, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a rant. I always expect nothing from people but this one time I thought maybe just maybe these people will come through. Maybe they will follow up on promises made. Maybe they will see what I do. Maybe they respect how hard I work.

I was wrong and now equally angry and heartbroken. Lesson learned. I won't let my guard down again.

Did you post this before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

I was raised to have manners and show gratitude whether those around me do so or not. The fact that an MB's supervisor doesn't express gratitude for her hard work does not mean it is excuseable for her to treat her nanny in the same way. I would also sincerely hope that an MB is more invested in the care of her children than her boss might be in a stupid report. The fact that the two situations are even comparable in your mind shows just how little regard you have for the job you've hired your nanny to do. If you don't value the care of your kids, and the person doing it, perhaps I was wrong and MBs do not actually value their kids either.

[Anonymous]

More details, OP? Your post is really vague.

[Anonymous]

Sales jobs get huge bonuses because they generate income for the company. I agree that MB should show gratitude, but if you're expecting lots of extra money and free time in a nanny job, you need to carefully select employers with money to burn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

sorry you've never had a job where that happened. I used to work for customer service at a bank and stiff like that happened a lot. I always got bonuses and gift cards and at the end of the year, I was a top 5% banker and was treated to an all expense paid trip to Mexico. Not all office jobs suck or are thankless.

I worked in a dealership and in retail prior to nannying. In both cases, I received holiday bonuses, raises for a certain number of hours and certain level of performance, a gift card for my birthday, my birthday off (paid, but not requested), decent vacation, time and a half if I was told to work the holiday or double time if I volunteered, decent sick days. Oh, and everyone received a bonus after the numbers were run for the year.

Please, tell me again that job performance isn't noted? I'm sorry that you have an employer who only notices the negatives, but most good managers/employers give positive and negative feedback.

PP, was this before 1990?? It sounds like my parents' jobs but none of the retail jobs that anyone I've known have had was like this!

OP, sorry that you felt disrespected and unappreciated. Hopefully things look up for you, but vague postings don't give us much to work with for helping you figure any solutions out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. Many parents really just don't care about their child. It's so sad.

I disagree. It's not their child they don't care about, its us and the work we do. They get home and the kid is happy and healthy, and the house isn't a disaster, and beyond that they aren't concerned about what it took to make that happen.

That was your job, you got money for it, what more do you want. When MB turns in a report at work her boss doesn't gush "OMG this is so great! I know you worked super hard on it. I can't wait for Christmas time so I can give you a 2 week bonus!"

You are expecting something that just doesn't exist in any job.

sorry you've never had a job where that happened. I used to work for customer service at a bank and stiff like that happened a lot. I always got bonuses and gift cards and at the end of the year, I was a top 5% banker and was treated to an all expense paid trip to Mexico. Not all office jobs suck or are thankless.

Then the nannies should go work customer service and get those sweet $100 bonuses, because I'm sure working a CS desk job in a cubical for some know-nothing manager is much better then what they have now.

On another note, a CS job docks your pay when you CAN'T show up. Snow storm closed the office? No pay. Computer system down, boss says stay home? No pay. Think about that one nannies.