Trash can as a gift?

[Anonymous]

Hi! Im a nanny to a family that moved from another state not too long ago. When their items were shipped some were damaged including their stainless steel trash can that goes in the kitchen. Then the cleaning company ended up damaging it more to wear the pedal doesn't even open it anymore when you step on it. My mb is s germaphobe and we all hate having to constantly touch this thing but I know she has been way too busy to actually replace it. I have an automatic open close one at my own home and would like to order one for their kitchen. Would this seem strange, too much, shady etc? lol TIA

[Anonymous]

It's not your place to do this. If you were her personal assistant you would use her credit card to order one. But you're not plus you're talking about using your own money. No.

[Anonymous]

Not as a gift. Remember most people are comfortable with gifting down. Plus you sound like a newer nanny and they haven't known you long. Get her a framed pic of the kids or have them make her something.

What you can do is send a text or email saying- "hey guys just checking in to see if I can help with getting settled. I have x amt of time when the kids are napping and would be happy to pick anything up or do anything if needed! Maybe a bed bath and beyond run w the kiddos could work too!"

That was she can you give you a cc and you can feel like you are helping.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I think you sound like you know this family well enough to know if the mom would appreciate you replacing this.

I actually would (since it sounds like you'd know how to replace it with one they'd like.) Assuming you're still getting a stainless one I think it's a great idea.

I don't expect our nanny to get gifts for us, and I'm a little uncomfortable when she inevitably does, but this kind of gift I would love and appreciate. I'd MUCH rather have you replace something you know I like and that the whole family will use, than buy me something more personal.

I think it sounds great OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not your place to do this. If you were her personal assistant you would use her credit card to order one. But you're not plus you're talking about using your own money. No.

People tend to use their own money when buying gifts lol thanks for responding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I think you sound like you know this family well enough to know if the mom would appreciate you replacing this.

I actually would (since it sounds like you'd know how to replace it with one they'd like.) Assuming you're still getting a stainless one I think it's a great idea.

I don't expect our nanny to get gifts for us, and I'm a little uncomfortable when she inevitably does, but this kind of gift I would love and appreciate. I'd MUCH rather have you replace something you know I like and that the whole family will use, than buy me something more personal.

I think it sounds great OP.

Uh, I have a stainless steel trash can and it cost $100. Would you really feel good about your nanny spending $100 on something you could easily purchase yourself? That's really crappy of you.

OP no, you shouldn't get this for them. Employers gift employees, not the other way around. A photo of the kids, a craft you did with them, that kind of thing is a perfect gift from a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not as a gift. Remember most people are comfortable with gifting down. Plus you sound like a newer nanny and they haven't known you long. Get her a framed pic of the kids or have them make her something.

What you can do is send a text or email saying- "hey guys just checking in to see if I can help with getting settled. I have x amt of time when the kids are napping and would be happy to pick anything up or do anything if needed! Maybe a bed bath and beyond run w the kiddos could work too!"

That was she can you give you a cc and you can feel like you are helping.

Hi thanks for the response! I'm very close to the family even though I've only been with them since last spring. I was with them during the move from corporate housing to the house that they live in now. I've seem it all. My db still lives out of state and there's no other family here, I'm like my mbs right hand. The kids are in school during the day so I already run errands for her. She would never ask me to pick up something like this for her nor would it occur to her. I offer to do all sorts of things and she never insists. She is very busy and sometimes overwhelmed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I think you sound like you know this family well enough to know if the mom would appreciate you replacing this.

I actually would (since it sounds like you'd know how to replace it with one they'd like.) Assuming you're still getting a stainless one I think it's a great idea.

I don't expect our nanny to get gifts for us, and I'm a little uncomfortable when she inevitably does, but this kind of gift I would love and appreciate. I'd MUCH rather have you replace something you know I like and that the whole family will use, than buy me something more personal.

I think it sounds great OP.

Uh, I have a stainless steel trash can and it cost $100. Would you really feel good about your nanny spending $100 on something you could easily purchase yourself? That's really crappy of you.

OP no, you shouldn't get this for them. Employers gift employees, not the other way around. A photo of the kids, a craft you did with them, that kind of thing is a perfect gift from a nanny.

Lol op here. I loved her response. Honestly it's not about the amount of it(I spent more on the kids bday gifts) I can get one from Amazon for less than $50. I was just wondering if it's too weird of a gift. I hate getting stuff that clutters and doesn't get used.

[Anonymous]

Well sounds like you don't really want any advice or input as you've already made up your mind. Go ahead get the trash can. And here are the Pats on the head you think you deserve for being nanny of the year.

Christ. Why ask shit like this only to defend yourself to every single piece of advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well sounds like you don't really want any advice or input as you've already made up your mind. Go ahead get the trash can. And here are the Pats on the head you think you deserve for being nanny of the year.

Christ. Why ask shit like this only to defend yourself to every single piece of advice.

I was defending the ASSUMPTION that it would be expensive. My only concern is that a trashcan as a gift might seem bad. Sort of looking at it like a husband getting a wife a vacuum when she'd rather have a necklace. The input from the ACTUAL mb seemed to comprehend my stance. The other responses were to clarify that I do know them well since the poster said it sounded like I did not.

Pat yourself on the back for being a misunderstanding

[Anonymous]

*mistunderstanding b*tch

The best part was left out of my post to you sorry!

[Anonymous]

I am a MB and I think you're full of it. You wouldn't even be in the same train of thought of "if my husband got me a vacuum...." Its not the same thing at all. And if you think it is....you've got bigger issues.

That aside. You are willing and wanting to get it and they need one. So get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I think you sound like you know this family well enough to know if the mom would appreciate you replacing this.

I actually would (since it sounds like you'd know how to replace it with one they'd like.) Assuming you're still getting a stainless one I think it's a great idea.

I don't expect our nanny to get gifts for us, and I'm a little uncomfortable when she inevitably does, but this kind of gift I would love and appreciate. I'd MUCH rather have you replace something you know I like and that the whole family will use, than buy me something more personal.

I think it sounds great OP.

Thank you I think you understood what my dilemma was. I'd hate to spend money on a candle or body wash and see it never get used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a MB and I think you're full of it. You wouldn't even be in the same train of thought of "if my husband got me a vacuum...." Its not the same thing at all. And if you think it is....you've got bigger issues.

That aside. You are willing and wanting to get it and they need one. So get it.

You may be an mb but you are also a rude person. I know that gifts from employees aren't equivalent to gifts from husbands. Since you seem to have trouble comprehending I was only concerned because it's a trashcan, as mbs would you rather want one because you need it or some gift basket from tjmaxx full of scents I don't even know you'd like.Thanks for responding have a good day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well sounds like you don't really want any advice or input as you've already made up your mind. Go ahead get the trash can. And here are the Pats on the head you think you deserve for being nanny of the year.

Christ. Why ask shit like this only to defend yourself to every single piece of advice.

Ugh so nasty for no reason.

Op I'm not a mb but I would get this for my family if I knew they needed it. A couple of years ago I got my mb a juicer when the motor on hers burned out. She's very healthy but it was just one of those things she hadn't had time to get to yet. She was extremely grateful!