Nannying after miscarriage

[Anonymous]

Would you all continue nannying after experiencing a miscarriage?

MBs would you sympathetic or worried about performance?

I've been a nanny for 10+ years. I always knew when I had my own kids I would stop nannying and stay home until my kids were school aged. And then maybe work at a non profit, school or something ( I have my masters in education).

My husband and I are worried about miscarriages and how hard it might be to become pregnant. I'm not sure I could continue to nanny after the loss of my own child...

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I'm not clear. Did you have a miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

I think it is all completely individual and you won't know until you experience it yourself. What worked for some won't work for others, and many might not even have the luxury of not going back to work afterwards. Basically, cross this bridge when you get to it, not now.

[Anonymous]

I think you are being a bit of a drama queen about this if you are anticipating quitting your job early in case you might have a miscarriage. Are you even pregnant yet?

That said, if you are really going to be this sensitive about it then you probably should preemptively quit and just do babysitting/temp work while TTC so that you don't put some poor family in the position of quitting with no notice because you are too sad.

[Anonymous]

I had a miscarriage while working. Both parents were out of the country. I had to take the baby with me to the appointment. Of course that very day a neighbor called begging me to babysit her baby. I was in horrible pain with 2 babies and a preschooler at school. But I got through that day thankfully. I'm still a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a miscarriage while working. Both parents were out of the country. I had to take the baby with me to the appointment. Of course that very day a neighbor called begging me to babysit her baby. I was in horrible pain with 2 babies and a preschooler at school. But I got through that day thankfully. I'm still a nanny.

You have a mouth. Why didn't you just say "no" to neighbor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is all completely individual and you won't know until you experience it yourself. What worked for some won't work for others, and many might not even have the luxury of not going back to work afterwards. Basically, cross this bridge when you get to it, not now.

+1

Why are you worrying about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a miscarriage while working. Both parents were out of the country. I had to take the baby with me to the appointment. Of course that very day a neighbor called begging me to babysit her baby. I was in horrible pain with 2 babies and a preschooler at school. But I got through that day thankfully. I'm still a nanny.

You have a mouth. Why didn't you just say "no" to neighbor?

Because she only needed me to watch her daughter for an hr or so. It was hrs before my appointment so no conflict there. I was trying to be nice.

[Anonymous]

I did not get super emotional when I had a miscarriage. I have a nanny and would understand them needing a couple of days off.

[Anonymous]

Since you are married and it looks like the child would have been planned, then any sympathetic employer should have no issue giving you a week or so off to recover, both physically as well as emotionally.

It varies on each person, but I personally could continue working as a nanny since it would drive me bonkers to stay at home, in bed all day crying.

Being around children is always a fun time and the distraction would be perfect for me.

However each and every person has their own unique strategy for dealing with grief. And forms of grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you are married and it looks like the child would have been planned, then any sympathetic employer should have no issue giving you a week or so off to recover, both physically as well as emotionally.

It varies on each person, but I personally could continue working as a nanny since it would drive me bonkers to stay at home, in bed all day crying.

Being around children is always a fun time and the distraction would be perfect for me.

However each and every person has their own unique strategy for dealing with grief. And forms of grief.

I would be very sympathetic, but I would not add time to your paid leave. I would also not want to know in advance about the ttc part. TMI.

[Anonymous]

I've had 3 miscarriages (4 babies as one pregnancy was twins) , all while working as a nanny. They have each been tough, but nothing that I needed to stay in bed for weeks at a time for.