What Will You Do?

[Anonymous]

Last month for abt 3 weeks I cared for a five years old girl. At the end of the 3 weeks her mom gave me a small appreciation gift and the girl gave me a thank you card. I told the mom can she give me references letter or be my references also can I take her daughter to the park with my son on the weekend (free of charge). She said no problem just give her a call. Two days after that I texted her telling about the playdate and also informed her, her daughter belonging (spare clothes and pants) are still in my car. NO REPLY. So I called and left voice message. NO REPLY FROM HER.

I almost gave up trying but thinking of the girl who was so exited when her mom told her, she can go to the park with my son. On Saturday morning I called and texted her again STILL NO REPLY.

Fine! Whatever!

Today the girl dad email me through babysitting website and asking if I'm available to watch her daughter on Nov 9. I'm wondering why don't they just call me? I'm sure they still have my number because we had a group charts before. Or do you guys think they deleted my number from their contact list?

Anyway should I accept this job? I really miss that girl. She have mild autism but she is funny and my son love to have small sister to spend time together. But I don't like her parents for:-
1. Not giving me the reference letter
2. Not even bother to return my call or my text message


Thank you (pls ignore all the grammar etc) I have 12 months old baby with me now.

[Anonymous]

Weird. My first thought is that mom is sick or dead. That is homes toy the only way I can imagine my husband making babysitting arrangements through a babysitting website.

[Anonymous]

*only way* not homes toy

[Anonymous]

OP here, I just received a text message from the dad telling that he send an email to the babysitting website.

Emm, I can see that they still have my number but ignored all my call and text messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird. My first thought is that mom is sick or dead. That is homes toy the only way I can imagine my husband making babysitting arrangements through a babysitting website.

Mom is very educated person YET lacks on something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last month for abt 3 weeks I cared for a five years old girl. At the end of the 3 weeks her mom gave me a small appreciation gift and the girl gave me a thank you card. I told the mom can she give me references letter or be my references also can I take her daughter to the park with my son on the weekend (free of charge). She said no problem just give her a call. Two days after that I texted her telling about the playdate and also informed her, her daughter belonging (spare clothes and pants) are still in my car. NO REPLY. So I called and left voice message. NO REPLY FROM HER.

I almost gave up trying but thinking of the girl who was so exited when her mom told her, she can go to the park with my son. On Saturday morning I called and texted her again STILL NO REPLY.

Fine! Whatever!

Today the girl dad email me through babysitting website and asking if I'm available to watch her daughter on Nov 9. I'm wondering why don't they just call me? I'm sure they still have my number because we had a group charts before. Or do you guys think they deleted my number from their contact list?

Anyway should I accept this job? I really miss that girl. She have mild autism but she is funny and my son love to have small sister to spend time together. But I don't like her parents for:-
1. Not giving me the reference letter
2. Not even bother to return my call or my text message


Thank you (pls ignore all the grammar etc) I have 12 months old baby with me now.

Probably the parents both have autism. Sorry op.

[Anonymous]

FWIW. I'm a working mom (I work a lot) and I have 2 phones- 1 for work and 1 for home. I often let my personal phone run out of battery or forget where I put it for days! I really don't care. I keep email on my work phone and use it more. I really am not a big fan of texting- I find it to be kind of a nuisance.

So, don't take it personally that she didn't text you- maybe she's just not a text person

[Anonymous]

I think considering this Mother has two young children (one w/Autism), a marriage & home to maintain plus she works full-time, perhaps she was just too busy to get right back to you.

I think the same thing applies to the reference letter as well.

Just try to be a little patient.

The thing where the Father contacted you on the Nanny website is kinda weird however. Is it the same website that they found you on? Perhaps only the Mother has your phone no.# or maybe they lost one of the phones, etc. so the Dad just figured it would be easier to just message you via the website, etc.

Overall, I just think this family has A LOT going on + it really has nothing to do w/you at all. They may also be a little scatterbrained too on top of that which is to be expected perhaps.

They must still like you if they asked you to babysit in 10 days, right??

[Anonymous]

I would write them off. No excuse for not answering you and it shows that they do not place a value on you or your time. I do not care how busy someone is, there is no excuse for such blatant rudeness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think considering this Mother has two young children (one w/Autism), a marriage & home to maintain plus she works full-time, perhaps she was just too busy to get right back to you.

I think the same thing applies to the reference letter as well.

Just try to be a little patient.

The thing where the Father contacted you on the Nanny website is kinda weird however. Is it the same website that they found you on? Perhaps only the Mother has your phone no.# or maybe they lost one of the phones, etc. so the Dad just figured it would be easier to just message you via the website, etc.

Overall, I just think this family has A LOT going on + it really has nothing to do w/you at all. They may also be a little scatterbrained too on top of that which is to be expected perhaps.

They must still like you if they asked you to babysit in 10 days, right??

That is a very weak excuse. You can never be to busy to spare 15 seconds for a text (to someone important, of course not every text requires a reply immediately or even at all.)

I have seen these "I'm so busy" mothers and their kids watch iPad all day. They aren't busy, just lazy.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you are texting the right phone number?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes phones act up. Recently my only way of communicating was with email due to my screen not being responsive anymore. I could only text from my MacBook and it could only go to apple users or whatever. Meanwhile people were trying to contact me to no avail. Sometimes throughout the day when I'd talk to my husband while he was at work on the home phone if ask him to "check on x,y,z" or "reach out to so and so about this" because I was still waiting on a replacement.

I also have had clients that will reach out if the date is their idea and not their spouses. One of my former students mom always emailed me yet her husband would text me. Come to find out she just didn't like texting


Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure you are texting the right phone number?

Yes. I checked her profile on her working place website and she have the same number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think considering this Mother has two young children (one w/Autism), a marriage & home to maintain plus she works full-time, perhaps she was just too busy to get right back to you.

I think the same thing applies to the reference letter as well.

Just try to be a little patient.

The thing where the Father contacted you on the Nanny website is kinda weird however. Is it the same website that they found you on? Perhaps only the Mother has your phone no.# or maybe they lost one of the phones, etc. so the Dad just figured it would be easier to just message you via the website, etc.

Overall, I just think this family has A LOT going on + it really has nothing to do w/you at all. They may also be a little scatterbrained too on top of that which is to be expected perhaps.

They must still like you if they asked you to babysit in 10 days, right??

Yes the same website.

On the first day I care for her daughter, she created one group conversation between her, her husband and me. I used this group conversation to send updates and pictures of her daughter doing drawing, craft, reading etc. She love to text. I loathe texting because texting takes a lot longer than hitting "like" on FB and I have a limited phone plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think considering this Mother has two young children (one w/Autism), a marriage & home to maintain plus she works full-time, perhaps she was just too busy to get right back to you.

I think the same thing applies to the reference letter as well.

Just try to be a little patient.

The thing where the Father contacted you on the Nanny website is kinda weird however. Is it the same website that they found you on? Perhaps only the Mother has your phone no.# or maybe they lost one of the phones, etc. so the Dad just figured it would be easier to just message you via the website, etc.

Overall, I just think this family has A LOT going on + it really has nothing to do w/you at all. They may also be a little scatterbrained too on top of that which is to be expected perhaps.

They must still like you if they asked you to babysit in 10 days, right??

That is a very weak excuse. You can never be to busy to spare 15 seconds for a text (to someone important, of course not every text requires a reply immediately or even at all.)

I have seen these "I'm so busy" mothers and their kids watch iPad all day. They aren't busy, just lazy.

If she took 5 days to get back to me I don't mind at all but now its almost 30 days! still no response, I really cant brain this!