Nanny Child Bond

[Anonymous]

According to what we see on this forum, it seems to me that many mothers may be conflicted about how bonded they hope the nanny becomes with the child.

1. Love and care for my child, but we're not going to keep up with any relationship when we're done with you, no matter how attached my child becomes.

or

2. If my child does form a close attachment over time, we hope to maintain whatever relationship might be possible after nanny "moves on."

Personally I'm careful not to be too affectionate with a child in front of the parents. You never know for sure how they'll feel about it. If I think there may be cameras, I'm equally careful. I think that's unfortunate, but most often simple reality.

[Anonymous]

According to what I see on this forum there are a handful of people who need to get a life and find something better to do with their time than endlessly ranting here.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and my affection to the baby that I care is so obvious. People around me including the parents can see it. They love it because that is what they want from their nanny, to love their baby as their own.

[Anonymous]

Some parents want a nanny who will love the kids as their own. Other parents want a nanny who will know that it's a job and keep very strong boundaries up. I interview specifically for positions in which the nanny is expected to bond with the children and aren't afraid that the children will love them less.

[Anonymous]

I think a good family will encourage a strong nanny/child bond since it is the best thing for their child in the long run.

Those that do not have certain insecurity issues that they should learn to deal with on their own.

The more love a child experiences, the better off he will be.