My nanny is incompetent

[Anonymous]

We have had a nanny for two weeks and I am questioning her competence. I have asked her to help with get my 10 week old. We want her on a schedule, for her to drop the night feeds, wake up an hour later, and nap longer. My nanny has been helping with naps but refuses to get the baby on a strict routine. She also told us she can't help break the night feeds or early wake up because she isn't here, but did give suggestions that aren't helpful. I'm very annoyed and don't know how to handle this.

[Anonymous]

Former MB here. I mean this is not a snarky way: what you are asking of your nanny in my estimation is not possible or desirable.
Your 10 week old is doing exactly what a baby that age should be doing. Wait another two months or so and you can make some progress on the issues you raise.

[Anonymous]

Mommy is incompetent. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Agree, it's not the nanny who's the problem, it's the parents with unrealistic expectations for 1) an infant who's too young to be scheduled according to what YOU want and 2) expecting someone else to get the infant on a schedule during times she's NOT EVEN THERE!!

This can't be real. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Can you find a parenting class, OP?

[Anonymous]

LOL.

[Anonymous]

You are unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. My best friends 15 week old is on an eat/play/sleep schedule and STTN. Her nanny helped her get him on that routine.

[Anonymous]

What do you expect her to do about the night stuff when she isn't there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. My best friends 15 week old is on an eat/play/sleep schedule and STTN. Her nanny helped her get him on that routine.

Too bad your baby isn't a clone of hers, then.

[Anonymous]

Every baby is different op, even siblings. This baby might not get on a schedule until 6-8 mo (very typical) and you next baby might be on a schedule straight from the womb, or not until a year old. Every adult is different and so is every baby.

And I am genuinely curious about what you think a day time nanny is going to do to get your baby on a night time schedule? Wave a magic wand? I've helped babies get on a schedule insofar as making sure they get good sleep during the day and sleep begets sleep, so in general a baby who sleeps well during the day will sleep better at night, but that's really all she can do during the day to help you. You need to make sure you have a sound machine or some kind of sound proofing in baby's room to cut down on outside noise, swaddle, feed before sleep to cut down on the possibility of waking up hungry after a couple hours, let baby cry and wait for a few minutes before going in and then wait longer and longer over time. I think a lot of parents rush in at the first peep when if they would wait 5-10 min the baby would go back to sleep on its own.

I hope that helps, but I also want to emphasize that 15 weeks is VERY VERY early for this. I don't crib train, cry it out etc before 6-8 mo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have had a nanny for two weeks and I am questioning her competence. I have asked her to help with get my 10 week old. We want her on a schedule, for her to drop the night feeds, wake up an hour later, and nap longer. My nanny has been helping with naps but refuses to get the baby on a strict routine. She also told us she can't help break the night feeds or early wake up because she isn't here, but did give suggestions that aren't helpful. I'm very annoyed and don't know how to handle this.

An fit parent !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. My best friends 15 week old is on an eat/play/sleep schedule and STTN. Her nanny helped her get him on that routine.

This has to be the most ridiculous baby-rearing invention ever. Eating, playing, and sleeping is literally ALL that a baby can do. If you squint hard enough, of course it'll look like the baby's on a schedule. You need to learn more about babies, OP. Your expectations are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Poor baby! OP you seem annoyed her suggestions for night training aren't useful to you. Is it her job to tell you how to train your baby? 10 weeks is very early. Stop competing with your friend and do what's best for your own baby. Your nanny seems to be a far better parent than you. I feel so sorry for your child.

[Anonymous]

You want to sleep train a 10 week old? And deprive the poor child of nighttime feeds? Are you crazy? Infants sleep when tired and cry so that they can eat when they are hungry. As long as you don't force an infant to try to drink more than they want, they can't overeat, and as long as you offer enough, they won't undereat. It's biological imperative at it's finest. Let your child grow up a bit before you try to force them to fit your schedule.