Nanny is pregnant

[Anonymous]

We've had an amazing nanny for almost two years now . Nanny just informed DH and I that she is pregnant and 12 weeks along. We have no clue about what to do next ? Though she is willing to work as much as possible till her due date?
Has this happened to any MB here or nanny ?
Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I just finished filling in for a family whose nanny was on maternity leave. They loved her and even allowed her to bring her new baby with her after her leave.

[Anonymous]

Hasn't happened yet, but I am TTC and wondering how my employers will take the news and how/when I should tell them

[Anonymous]

You really can't do anything now. She may have a very easy pregnancy and work up until your agreed upon date. Is she able to stay home with her own baby or will she want her job back?

No nanny position is forever and they all end. You are basically getting six months notice if she isn't coming back.

[Anonymous]

You need to keep the lines of communication open with your nanny, and start to formulate a plan for when she needs to stop working.

How old is your child or children? Do they still need to be lifted/carried a lot?

Do you want her to come back to work after maternity leave? How long has she been with you? How much do you value her? Does SHE want to return to work after she has her baby? How long does she want to take off? These are all things you need to consider.

I had a part-time nanny job that I worked up until I gave birth to my first child. The little boy in my care was 5 years old at the time, though. I'm not sure how motivated I would have been to stick around had the job involved lifting/carrying babies and toddlers while 9+ months pregnant (but my time having part-time nanny side jobs was ending, as well, so I was not worried about job retention or future nanny jobs).

[Anonymous]

She has given you peace of mind and excellent child care and I would hope that your gratitude to her outweighs any negative feelings about her pregnancy. How were you treated by your employer during your pregnancy? You can be a bitch and think only of yourself or you can be a decent person and work with her. I hope it will be the latter but I suspect it will be the former.

[Anonymous]

This is why you have in your contract that the nanny can not have romantic or physical relations with anyone. No sex means no pregnancy. Might sound crazy to some but I've signed contracts like that

[Anonymous]

I would sit down and think about what you can realistically do, and talk to her about it. You can also ask her what she's hoping for, of course, but you need to think about what you can do if you can't meet all of her wishes. Here are some things to consider:

1. How will you accommodate prenatal appointments?
2. What accommodations are you willing to make if she needs them, and what would you instead expect her to take time off for (I would not be ok with a lot of screen time for days on end if nanny was feeling very tired/sick, but I would be able to be flexible about starting late some days).
3. What is the plan if she has to go on bedrest?
4. What is the plan for when she nears the end of her pregnancy? Will you let her work until she goes into labor, or will you need to find a temp who can start on a firm date?
5. Can you offer paid maternity leave of any length? Unpaid? How long before she forfeits her job?
6. Are you willing to consider her bringing her baby to work (I would not be, but some people don't mind)?

[Anonymous]

Just continue to talk and communicate.
Ask her what she intends to do. She may not want to work any longer after her baby.

If she wants to nanny during her pregnancy, ask her what "workarounds" she envisions for her nanny job these next 6 months or afterwards. She will have monthly appointments, may have a tough last couple months, illness, etc.

Both of you should come up with contingency plans together, just like at any other job.

As for working post pregnancy, ask her what her childcare plans are. And what the options are, again, if she even wants to continue to work. If one of those options is working with you and her Mom (grandma) watches the child, or cousin, or does she want to bring her infant. If the latter you have another whole set of issues and questions to ask yourself. see other posts.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I will be returning back to work soon with my new born baby my employers are amazing and I have also been with them for almost so years now.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Be happy for your nanny, discuss possibilities about future, start looking. Even if she says she would like to come back after having the baby, do have someone lined up because like any new mom her decision can change when she has her baby in her arms. GL!

[Anonymous]

I would also get due date / date when she plans to stop working and when she plans to come back. I would start process of looking for temp nanny now with availability 2 weeks overlapping ( in case your nanny goes into labor early). Its not that easy to find a good ft nanny who wants to work just for a few months. You also have to budget paying her extra or give a bonus for the temp position.

[Anonymous]

OP here, Nanny has been with since I returned from my maternity leave. My twins were two month old at the time and are now about to turn 2. So it's been quite a time.But I'm worried she might not be able to care for them as she has always been with her pregnancy. though she says she will be fine.
As for her plans to come back , nanny says, she would rather not have us expecting her to come back after giving birth, and disappoint us if for any reason she can't come back then. Should we let her go now and find another replacement ? As she is not coming back anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Nanny has been with since I returned from my maternity leave. My twins were two month old at the time and are now about to turn 2. So it's been quite a time.But I'm worried she might not be able to care for them as she has always been with her pregnancy. though she says she will be fine.
As for her plans to come back , nanny says, she would rather not have us expecting her to come back after giving birth, and disappoint us if for any reason she can't come back then. Should we let her go now and find another replacement ? As she is not coming back anyway?

Yes. You absolutely should screw her by firing her when pregnant because she doesn't need the money and finding another job would be so easy for a pregnant nanny.

You, OP. are a 24 karat effing bitch and I pray that all the things you so richly deserve come to you soon and in spades!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Nanny has been with since I returned from my maternity leave. My twins were two month old at the time and are now about to turn 2. So it's been quite a time.But I'm worried she might not be able to care for them as she has always been with her pregnancy. though she says she will be fine.
As for her plans to come back , nanny says, she would rather not have us expecting her to come back after giving birth, and disappoint us if for any reason she can't come back then. Should we let her go now and find another replacement ? As she is not coming back anyway?

Ignore the PP. She apparently can't read and see that you're trying to work this through. If I understand correctly, this is your nanny's first pregnancy? Realistically, she is going to find twin toddlers tough in her third trimester unless she's superwoman. If she isn't planning to come back, I would suggest you pick a mutual end point, say around 34-36 weeks. Or, you can wait and see how it goes, planning to start your new nanny search about 6 weeks before her due date.