MB tells DB to tell me things...

[Anonymous]

MB will apparently call DB and tell him to tell me something that I am doing wrong. It is clear that it isn't coming from him since he has no clue as to why I must not, for example, use bleach on my charge's stained white shirts or not bathe him that day. I truly do not understand why she does this - I am not difficult to talk to and will never argue with any mother on how she wants me to care for her child.

[Anonymous]

I've noticed the same dynamic. I think they know they're being unreasonable, so they don't want to engage in any discussion with the nanny. They know there will be no discussion with her husband if he's clueless. Either that, or he has become the go-between.

This method of communication is truly disastrous. It's the beginning of the end of good, stable care for the child.

Mothers should think twice before they resort to this lazy behavior if they want to avoid the revolving nanny door.

[Anonymous]

Is your MB generally bitch to her husband? Mine is. She never seems to think he is doing enough although he spends more time with my charge than she does and he also does ALL of the cleaning, laundry and cooking that I have ever seen. But my MB calls all the shots regarding child-rearing and what she says goes. She has him tell me things too but I think she does it to further push her DH around and it has little to do with me. "Tell nanny to _____" if much the same as "Go to the dry cleaners and pick up my pants."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your MB generally bitch to her husband? Mine is. She never seems to think he is doing enough although he spends more time with my charge than she does and he also does ALL of the cleaning, laundry and cooking that I have ever seen. But my MB calls all the shots regarding child-rearing and what she says goes. She has him tell me things too but I think she does it to further push her DH around and it has little to do with me. "Tell nanny to _____" if much the same as "Go to the dry cleaners and pick up my pants."

Same here. Lol. What's going on with our culture? Where's the equality between parents? You know, their sons will also become whimps, just like daddy. Then mommy will be sorry for treating her husband like her personal servant, when it's too late. And her boy will marry a selfish woman, just like mommy. Interesting how that happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your MB generally bitch to her husband? Mine is. She never seems to think he is doing enough although he spends more time with my charge than she does and he also does ALL of the cleaning, laundry and cooking that I have ever seen. But my MB calls all the shots regarding child-rearing and what she says goes. She has him tell me things too but I think she does it to further push her DH around and it has little to do with me. "Tell nanny to _____" if much the same as "Go to the dry cleaners and pick up my pants."

Same here. Lol. What's going on with our culture? Where's the equality between parents? You know, their sons will also become whimps, just like daddy. Then mommy will be sorry for treating her husband like her personal servant, when it's too late. And her boy will marry a selfish woman, just like mommy. Interesting how that happens.

+1 MB's "boy" will marry a woman just like his mother - and that woman will want her husband to have nothing to do with his mother. Payback is a bitch!

[Anonymous]

Some people just hate confrontation and will avoid it at all costs.

Not to give her a free pass, but trying to offer some clarity here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people just hate confrontation and will avoid it at all costs.

Not to give her a free pass, but trying to offer some clarity here.

They still need to grow up and have grown up conversations with the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, mine too. The last one I got was her sitting there with him, while he told me I need to immediately make myself available when they call in my off hours. They called Saturday night at 9 PM while I was out celebrating my friends birthday, about some schedule add-on Tuesday. I told him no, I would not be available to them after work hours and not on the weekend at all. They can email me with schedule changes that I will read receipt and respond to if need be at my own time. He looked like I slapped him and stormed out of the room. He can lick his wounds on his own time. I don't make enough to be on call 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Parental entitlement is the kiss of death.

[Anonymous]

I am an older nanny who has been around the proverbial block several times and these bossy MBs are going to lose their husbands in about ten to twelve years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an older nanny who has been around the proverbial block several times and these bossy MBs are going to lose their husbands in about ten to twelve years.

I think you're right. I've seen it a few times to.

These bossy mothers should back off and treat their husbands like an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, mine too. The last one I got was her sitting there with him, while he told me I need to immediately make myself available when they call in my off hours. They called Saturday night at 9 PM while I was out celebrating my friends birthday, about some schedule add-on Tuesday. I told him no, I would not be available to them after work hours and not on the weekend at all. They can email me with schedule changes that I will read receipt and respond to if need be at my own time. He looked like I slapped him and stormed out of the room. He can lick his wounds on his own time. I don't make enough to be on call 24/7.

I am a MB and I think this family's demands were beyond reasonable. Why should someone be on call 24/7? Guess what, they have a life!