I want to like my MB
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Anonymous
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I love my charge, love my job, and love being a nanny. I have been with the same family for nearly two years now and suddenly everything my MB does pissed me off suddenly! Yes, she is a difficult woman but I was always able to let it roll off my back before. Now even small things that she does bug me.
MB is not going to change. There is no point in discussing anything. I simply need to reframe my feeling and get past this. How? TIA |
Anonymous
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How many minutes a day must you put up with her?
In what way? |
Anonymous
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OP here. I only have to deal with her for about a half-hour to an hour in the morning. She rarely calls during the day.
I am bugged by stupid stuff lately - like her losing the pail and shovel I bought for my charge or telling me to make sure I change my charge's sheets when I just changed then the day before and have always changed his bed linen on Tuesdays (which she knows). Anything she reads on the internet (like overnight diapers exploding) she suddenly wants me to do something about -- but she has always been this way and this is nothing new. It is me - I know it. I just need a little advice in letting go and not letting nonsense stuff bug me. |
Anonymous
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Remember the big picture, OP. Read some horror stories and focus on the positive (just like we do with children) - she could be micromanaging you all day, she could refrain from discussing things with you "as you're just the help."
Would you want her to be pissed if you lost something? Would you want her to be offended if you brought up something she'd already taken care of, or planned to? Remember she is probably very tired and only human - your routine seems obvious to you but her mind is on a million other things and she only reminds you of stuff because she doesn't want to forget, not because she doesn't think you're capable. |
Anonymous
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PP here.
By way of example, my NF lives on a street with only permit parking (which they provide but which I don't keep over the weekends). I babysat last weekend and MB asked if I needed the pass and I said, "I thought permit parking ended at 6pm?" Her reply? "I honestly don't know, I've never looked at the sign." Keep in mind they have lived there for years and one of the parking signs is at the base of their front steps. Parents can get very busy, mushy brains and it isn't anything to do with you. |
Anonymous
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You can reframe anything and anyone by concentrating on the positive. Also remember that you both love her child. Think of all the ways that she is a good mother and where this job is a good fit for you.
I am an MB but I have a boos at work who bugs the crap out of me so I understand how little things can be blown-up into epic proportions when you are generally bugged by someone. I have to remember that I love my profession and that this job is great for my family and me. It makes dealing with him so much easier to remind myself of the big picture. |
Anonymous
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I want to like my MB, too. I also want to have sex with Brad Pitt and win the lottery.
We cannot always have what we want, OP. 
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Anonymous
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Every single one of us has a threshold that once reached, we begin to boil over.
You have reached yours. It may be time to seek another position because in all honesty, it is next to impossible to force yourself to like someone you don't. |
Anonymous
Don't get it, why do you have to like her? You see your mb 30 minutes a day, you see your charges that you love 8-9 hours a day. Do the math. |
Anonymous
+1 No one, in any field, needs to like their boss. |