MB owes me an apology

[Anonymous]

No, I am not going to post what she did. Trust me when I tell you that she owes me an apology or don't bother responding.

All of this was done on email/texts last night after I left. I sent her the last communication, actually quoting her previous emails to prove my point and wrote in no uncertain terms that she was incorrect in her assumption. She stopped writing back -- there really was nothing more that she could write to defend her position. But she never apologized.

Should I insist on an apology or just let it go? My inclination is always to let things go, but with this particular MB, the issues keep coming up.

[Anonymous]

Don't quote your boss on previous emails to prove your point.

You need to figure out if you can deal with whatever she is being an ass about or not. If you can't, then quit. If you can, then ignore it and move on. I don't think that she is going to apologize.

[Anonymous]

What a selfish fool she is.

[Anonymous]

Insist on an apology ? Are you being serious ? Your not worried about pissing her off and being fired by insisting she does something ?

[Anonymous]

You can insist on apologies from your friends, but you really can't insist on an apology from your employer, no matter how right you may think you are. I'm not saying it's right, but that's how it is, no matter what your job is.

The only thing you can do is decide whether the issue is a deal killer or not. If it is, then you need to find a new job. If not, you just have to let it go and disengage from arguing your point.

[Anonymous]

Even if you were factually correct in this situation, it sounds like you were combative in how you handled it and that's never the right way to go unfortunately. I get it - it's horribly frustrating when your boss asks for X, you do X, and then she responds with "why didn't you do Y?" but rather than saying "because you told me to - here's the proof" you need to be cooperative. You can say "I did X because that's what you asked yesterday, but I'm happy to do Y as well. Shall I do it now or tomorrow?" Keep the conversation moving forward. Don't dwell on who did what, because even if she was wrong, it's still your job to do as she asks, even when she changes her mind.

[Anonymous]

Any chance this mother might care a bit more about her child, than about herself? ...BEFORE it's too late?

[Anonymous]

You're so fired. I had an MB like that and she was completely nuts or else a compulsive liar. I neither know nor care which, but suffice it to say we are/were glad to be rid of each other and I never looked back.

[Anonymous]

When you try to demand an apology, you're standing on ceremony. That never ends well. Do you honestly want an apology someone feels forced to give? I don't.

[Anonymous]

Time to move on. Sbe won't apologize and you will let it fester until you explode. Be polite and pleasant, do not let your work fall, and find anothet job. Give her two weeks notice, no more, go and never look back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can insist on apologies from your friends, but you really can't insist on an apology from your employer, no matter how right you may think you are. I'm not saying it's right, but that's how it is, no matter what your job is.

The only thing you can do is decide whether the issue is a deal killer or not. If it is, then you need to find a new job. If not, you just have to let it go and disengage from arguing your point.

This.

Just do your job until you can find something better and leave. Hope that you don't get fired in the meantime (unless you want that.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if you were factually correct in this situation, it sounds like you were combative in how you handled it and that's never the right way to go unfortunately. I get it - it's horribly frustrating when your boss asks for X, you do X, and then she responds with "why didn't you do Y?" but rather than saying "because you told me to - here's the proof" you need to be cooperative. You can say "I did X because that's what you asked yesterday, but I'm happy to do Y as well. Shall I do it now or tomorrow?" Keep the conversation moving forward. Don't dwell on who did what, because even if she was wrong, it's still your job to do as she asks, even when she changes her mind.

Bingo. Nannying is your job, OP - treat it as such. (And I say that as someone who is probably the most casual 'professional' nanny on this site)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I am not going to post what she did. Trust me when I tell you that she owes me an apology or don't bother responding.

All of this was done on email/texts last night after I left. I sent her the last communication, actually quoting her previous emails to prove my point and wrote in no uncertain terms that she was incorrect in her assumption. She stopped writing back -- there really was nothing more that she could write to defend her position. But she never apologized.

Should I insist on an apology or just let it go? My inclination is always to let things go, but with this particular MB, the issues keep coming up.

Keep texting her about how right you are. Sounds like an argument worth continuing. Go OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if you were factually correct in this situation, it sounds like you were combative in how you handled it and that's never the right way to go unfortunately. I get it - it's horribly frustrating when your boss asks for X, you do X, and then she responds with "why didn't you do Y?" but rather than saying "because you told me to - here's the proof" you need to be cooperative. You can say "I did X because that's what you asked yesterday, but I'm happy to do Y as well. Shall I do it now or tomorrow?" Keep the conversation moving forward. Don't dwell on who did what, because even if she was wrong, it's still your job to do as she asks, even when she changes her mind.

Bingo. Nannying is your job, OP - treat it as such. (And I say that as someone who is probably the most casual 'professional' nanny on this site)

Wait until it's your husband or kids who you are "demanding" an apology from. Then you'll learn.

[Anonymous]

OP just don't show up until she apologizes. She will cave quick.