VENT!!!

[Anonymous]

Today I gave my boss my 3 weeks resignation. With the option of having 4 weeks if needed. I got a job opportunity that I couldn't pass up. I was feeling bad already since I like this family. So I professionally gave notice and guess what.....mom says "thanks we won't be needing you again" I mean why even bother giving notice if this is the reaction. We had a nice working relationship. I was leaving for a better opportunity. What a B&@!h

[Anonymous]

Do you have a contract?

Honestly, this is the shitty reality for nannies when we move on from a job. If we don't give more than two weeks notice we risk losing that family as a positive reference, which can seriously hurt us in the long run. If we do give two or more weeks notice, we risk getting "rage quit" on by the families, because after all, we, who have faithfully cared for their special snowflakes for months or years, have suddenly "turned our back" on their family by suddenly looking out for our own interests.

I hope you do have a contract because this probably qualifies as her letting you go without notice or severance, which would be in violation of most standard nanny contracts.

[Anonymous]

No, no contract. I usually do, but the vent for me was that I felt bad that they would have to go through the hiring process all over again, and was trying to give ample time. I even offered to send a few nannies their way(I know a ton of nannies in the area) all that worrying and I get the proverbial finger. Blahhhhhh

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately this happens a lot.

Nannies will give ample notice that they will be moving on and their employers fire them on the spot.

This is unjust and totally mean, but it still happens.

You did nothing wrong OP, your boss has certain issues. Instead of being grateful for all you have done with her family, she instead is acting like you are replaceable.

Thankfully you are out of there. Good riddance. I feel bad for their next nanny.

[Anonymous]

How long were you working with the family? Maybe you were not as good as you think and the family was already unhappy with you and considering replacement.

[Anonymous]

This seems to happen so often. I am not surprised that nannies have stopped giving their employers any notice. Sucks, OP - I'm sorry. Just know that you did the right thing and move on happily to your new position.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, OP, this happens in every industry, not just the nanny world. It sucks but it happens. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, OP, this happens in every industry, not just the nanny world. It sucks but it happens. Move on.

In other industries, nobody guilts you into giving an entire month's worth of notice.

[Anonymous]

Sorry this happened to you.

Our nanny gave us months notice out of the blue and we completely appreciated it and used the time to do a nanny search. She was not let go immediately.

I would only fire immediately if I thought the nanny would not be nice to kids or had an attitude toward the kids that would be detrimental. No one puts themselves in a position with no childcare on purpose. I think that you must've done something to make MB think that you would treat the kids poorly and hence, you not being around, even if MB had to scramble for childcare, was the best thing for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I gave my boss my 3 weeks resignation. With the option of having 4 weeks if needed. I got a job opportunity that I couldn't pass up. I was feeling bad already since I like this family. So I professionally gave notice and guess what.....mom says "thanks we won't be needing you again" I mean why even bother giving notice if this is the reaction. We had a nice working relationship. I was leaving for a better opportunity. What a B&@!h

All I can suggest is next time develop a better relationship with the parents. It's common on this board to say that nannies should be Auber-office-professional, never share any personal information with your boss, don't become friends with your boss, etc. But I always become very close with my bosses, I've worked for many families, some for just a year and some for 5+ years. I always give huge notice, sometimes up to 6 months ("After this summer I will be moving" etc) and I have never had anyone kick me to the curb early, they always are happy to keep me as long as possible.

If you get dropped that quickly then you probably have a crappy relationship with your employers, whether you feel thats true or not.

[Anonymous]

Yep this happened to me when I was a live-in. I gave a months notice, but then the next day they told me I had an hour to pack my things and get out. They didn't even let me say goodbye to the kids. Last live-in position I ever did. Luckily I've worked for some wonderful families since then and one family was nothing but thankful when I gave them 5 weeks notice and helped them interview for my replacement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I gave my boss my 3 weeks resignation. With the option of having 4 weeks if needed. I got a job opportunity that I couldn't pass up. I was feeling bad already since I like this family. So I professionally gave notice and guess what.....mom says "thanks we won't be needing you again" I mean why even bother giving notice if this is the reaction. We had a nice working relationship. I was leaving for a better opportunity. What a B&@!h

Sounds like something else has been going on here as well. We're things just not working out? Did you check out of the job weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

I don't think her response was out of line. Sounds like you were expecting, "oh no, you're the best, we need you!" and you got a professional employer/employee response. Your feelings are hurt a bit but you were the one to quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think her response was out of line. Sounds like you were expecting, "oh no, you're the best, we need you!" and you got a professional employer/employee response. Your feelings are hurt a bit but you were the one to quit.

I think you mean unprofessional. Very few jobs involved getting fired on the spot for putting in notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, OP, this happens in every industry, not just the nanny world. It sucks but it happens. Move on.

In other industries, nobody guilts you into giving an entire month's worth of notice.

Wrong. Every industry guilts you into giving a maximum worth of notice. Nannies are a bit precious and don't seem to understand that are not some super special employees. The are employees, like everyone else, facing fears of layoffs or redundancy, like everyone else. They have no great skills or exceptional work settings to justify the whining.