" Kiss of death" statements - help!!

[Anonymous]

Interviewed with a family that went pretty well. At the end they tell me " We like your exp. & professionalism but we are interviewing candidates tomorrow too. We will be making a decision by X day". Then they told me they met with a nanny two days prior who they extended an offer to, but she declined. They were bummed and then started asking " We really liked her but you clearly have more exp. She didn't accept the offer for X reason. How do you go about choosing between two offers? What would we do ( this sounds bad) to persuade you to accept an offer?" I tried to be a little vague with my answer but expressed my interest. Then the dad said he will let me know asap. I'm not sure if this means they aren't interested or if they were picking my brain on how a nanny chooses a family. The fact they said they are interviewing other candidates ( they gave other nanny offer ASAP) makes me think they were licking my brain and not interested. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Hard to say op. None of us were there. Keep interviewing and hope for the best.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like they want to hear from you "I would accept an offer if it had a fair benefits package" or something. Maybe the woman the extended an offer to rejected it because the pay was too low, hours were too high, benefits weren't what she wanted, etc.

[Anonymous]

I think they may be trying not to act too quickly this time around. Meaning they want to complete their interviews with ALL prospective candidates before making a decision. Perhaps looking back, they may think they acted too quickly.

Or you may be right, since they didn't offer you the position ASAP like they did the first choice, that may be a sign that you didn't necessarily impress them as much as they would have liked.

It is too early now to tell. I would take a wait and see approach and wait until they make you an offer.

This one is 50/50.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like they want you to tell them what to say to get the other nanny to work for them.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Sounds to me like nervous first time hirers (not really a word but you know what I mean) who found someone they liked but got turned down.

Now they're worried. They don't really know why that person declined, and they think you may do the same thing.

I would take their comments as genuine interest in you, and uncertainly about how to ensure that you accept an offer if they extend one.

I think you're in a very good position with them if they make you an offer. If there is anything substandard in their offer, but you're interested in the job, you can be pretty direct (gently) with them. For instance, I would love to work with you but I am accustomed to have XXX whereas you're only offering YYY. Is there any flexibility there?

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

They hated you.

[Anonymous]

DIdn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DIdn't happen.

Just because nothing happens in your boring little life doesn't mean these situations don't occur. Go back under your bridge.