Three weekends in a row?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why my MB thought this was okay to ask me. She texted and asked me to stay late a couple night next month and I didn't mind so I said sure. Then she texts back and asked for three weekends in a row. I don't understand? Who thinks this is okay to ask? Does she want me all burnt out? It's all for fun nights out. So MBs would you ask your nanny for three Saturday nights in a row?

[Anonymous]

So just say no OP.

"I'm really sorry but I think three 6 day work weeks in a row would leave me pretty burned out."

Refer them to a babysitter if you know one.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you tell her NO. I do not undetstand why nannies let,thrir MB's use, abuse them. It is just a job. You are NOT an indentured servant!

[Anonymous]

My nanny wants all the overtime she can get. I have other sitters, but I usually ask her first. If she can't or doesn't want to, she says no.

Tell your MB you're not interested, and she'll stop asking. No one knows whether you want more time off or more money unless you say something.

[Anonymous]

We have a "rights of first refusal" thing with our manny. Any time we need night time babysitting we ask him first. It's not an obligation, but an offer for work. Sometimes he says yes and sometimes no. Either answer is fine with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why my MB thought this was okay to ask me. She texted and asked me to stay late a couple night next month and I didn't mind so I said sure. Then she texts back and asked for three weekends in a row. I don't understand? Who thinks this is okay to ask? Does she want me all burnt out? It's all for fun nights out. So MBs would you ask your nanny for three Saturday nights in a row?

It is always okay to ask. It is always okay to say no.

I would love the overtime myself and have never been burned out especially with my full-time charge.

[Anonymous]

The nannies on here are nuts- the MB is offering you extra hours, which you can accept or (I hope politely!) decline.

[Anonymous]

Say no if you don't want to. Or say yes and stash the extra money in a piggy bank for a travel fund or whatever you want to save up for. You'll be amazed at how fast the money will accumulate if you let it. You can say you'll do the first and third weekends if you are worried about burning out on 3 in a row. Or you can say no to all. The choice is yours, my friend.

[Anonymous]

My NF usually gives me a list of dates a month or so in advance that they would like be to babysit and I am free to choose if I want to do any or all. If I've got plans or am just not feeling it, I say no, or I say yes, it doesn't matter because they have a back up babysitter. I like having the choice, and I rarely feel pressured to say yes if I truly don't want to.

[Anonymous]

She probably has something special and specific that she wants to do those three Saturdays, but yeah...I can see how she missed the mark regarding overworking you OP.

I would be 100% honest with her and let her know that you need to use your weekends catching up on housework, laundry, grocery shopping, errands and with friends. Stress to her that you could burn yourself out too much if you take on those extra hours.

Any reasonable Mom AND Boss should get it.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I don't get paid extra. Since I'm salary they think that weekends and late nights make up for when they are on vacation and other things. Trust me once I'm out of here I'll never agree to this type of thing. I had no idea what I was getting into. Thank you all for taking time to respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you tell her NO. I do not undetstand why nannies let,thrir MB's use, abuse them. It is just a job. You are NOT an indentured servant!

+1. Why are so many nannies such pushovers? Just say no. Don't accept the extra hours and complain about it. That's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny wants all the overtime she can get. I have other sitters, but I usually ask her first. If she can't or doesn't want to, she says no.

Tell your MB you're not interested, and she'll stop asking. No one knows whether you want more time off or more money unless you say something.

Obviously, if she needs this much OT, you are underpaying her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't get paid extra. Since I'm salary they think that weekends and late nights make up for when they are on vacation and other things. Trust me once I'm out of here I'll never agree to this type of thing. I had no idea what I was getting into. Thank you all for taking time to respond.

How many times does it have to be said, NANNIES ARE HOURLY EMPLOYEES, NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!

report them to your local labor employment office and let them go after ALL of you back OVERTIME money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't get paid extra. Since I'm salary they think that weekends and late nights make up for when they are on vacation and other things. Trust me once I'm out of here I'll never agree to this type of thing. I had no idea what I was getting into. Thank you all for taking time to respond.

Why in the world did you agree to THAT?

Say no, and keep saying no.