Tips on how to get through a job I just don't enjoy?
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Anonymous
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Took a summer job with a mom on maternity leave and her toddler and newborn. We are just not a great fit. She is very nice and respectful, etc., but a) just really does jot trust me or my judgement on anything and b) micromanages me a lot. I feel like they think I am lax about safety. They were concerned that I let the toddler stand on a scooter at the park without a helmet (despite my mentioning that he was just standing on it to push the horn, not actually in motion), they were concerned that I let him eat blueberries without cutting them in half (he is almost 3), and MB had asked that I always keep a blanket between the baby and my skin/clothes to protect him from my scent (despite the fact that I use zero scented products and shower daily).
It's a short term gig that I am not planning to leave, but I just feel very bored (since there is no initiative; I do only what I am told and do not vary from my orders), and discouraged (all my other families have LOVED me, but they seem to just think I'm okay). I find myself literally counting the minutes until quitting time, when at every other job I have loved being at work. |
Anonymous
| All you can really do is just suck it up since you know it's going to end fairly soon. Come up with some fun activities you can do with the 3 year old out of the house to keep the kid busy. Try to find something every day to do that will make you happy so you can enjoy at least part of your day. Hang in there! |
Anonymous
| I'd be direct with them and tell them how you feel and let the chips fall where they may. |
Anonymous
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Honestly I've had many MBs insist I cut up all circular shaped foods (including specifically blueberries) until after their third birthday. Also I'm not entirely sure I'm with you on that whole no helmet story. If all he was doing was honking the horn why did he need to stand ON it and not next to it? I'm a firm believer in sticking to the rules when it comes to scooters and bikes and helmets and the rule is if you're ON the bike or scooter then you wear a helmet. I can see how it would be confusing for the kid (I was on a scooter with nanny without my helmet but mommy says I need to wear it? ), but either way it is unsafe. Scooters are unpredictable and it could've lurched forward while he was on it. Again I don't understand why he couldn't have stood next to it if all he was doing was honking the horn?
These are really basic safety issues for toddlers and the fact that you're so flippant about it all would concern me, too. - Nanny |
Anonymous
Yeah, tell them. Tell them you don't believe in putting on a helmet when on or around a scooter, you don't believe inc urtng up foods that are the same shape as the esophagus, and you don't believe in protecting infants skin from sweat, dirt or detergent. Finally, be sure to tell them you don't like your employer telling you instructions about how to treat your employer's kids. What are you OP? A 20 yo acting like a 9 yo? . |
Anonymous
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Cutting a blueberry is ridiculous.
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Anonymous
| I'm a nanny who slices up circular food, even though I've seen MB and her mother throw whole grapes in the 2 year old's bowl. I also insist on helmet usage...not wearing a helmet is pretty serious business, IMO. |
Anonymous
| Honestly, OP, think about the money every time it gets difficult. The money and the recommendation that you will get from this MB. Kiss ass and get a good rec out of her. That is all. This job will be over in a matter of weeks. |
Anonymous
nanny already pointed out she's not very good and MB has more than noticed, I wouldn't hold out hope for a glowing written recommendation, and I surely wouldn't trust the MB to talk to a future prospective employer on the phone. |
Anonymous
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You need to sit down and have a conversation about this with your Mom Boss.
You can do so in a civil manner as long as you choose your words and tone carefully. Just briefly address your concerns and ask her how you both can work them out for the betterment of the children. Let her know that as their nanny, you work best with complete autonomy and less interference. Hopefully you both can work something out because trust me, it will be a LONG summer if things remain status quo. |
Anonymous
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A child not wearing a helmet on a scooter is illegal in a few states. The parents have a right to be concerned. I typically cut up blueberries. Honestly op you do seem very lax on safety and most families are not going to be okay with that. These are not toys but humans who can choke or have head injuries. Safety should be the one thing your employers never have to question.
https://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/state-advocacy/Documents/Helmets_SLR.pdf |
Anonymous
| Cutting blueberries for a 3 year old is a bit much. She may have a mental health issue of some sort. You should be getting paid double to put up with that all day. |
Anonymous
| Cutting a blueberry! She is nuts. Just quit. |