MB, do you ever admit to your child's nanny that you sometimes feel jealous or hurt...

[Anonymous]

... when your child wants the nanny and not you?

[Anonymous]

Why? No need to. -Nanny

[Anonymous]

I have admitted it aloud once or twice. No, I am not proud of that fact.

[Anonymous]

No, because there is nothing to be jealous about and I'm not jealous or hurt by anything our nanny does.

It is developmentally appropriate, especially with young children, to "prefer" someone specific for a short time. Sometimes, only Daddy will do for snuggles or playtime. Sometimes, only Nanny will do. Sometimes, Mama.

All that means is that a child is learning to develop strong loving relationships with important people in her world. It doesn't mean she prefers nanny over mama in any permanent way. It's a phase.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No. I often think, "Thank God they love the nanny!" Can you imagine the guilt if they hated seeing her come every morning? To me, it's like grandma -- more people to love them, and less pressure on me to be everything to them. I can be me, and do the things I do well, and they can get some of the other stuff from other people.

[Anonymous]

I have yet to feel that way. Do you assume every mom with a nanny does?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have yet to feel that way. Do you assume every mom with a nanny does?

Not every mother no - but a lot do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I often think, "Thank God they love the nanny!" Can you imagine the guilt if they hated seeing her come every morning? To me, it's like grandma -- more people to love them, and less pressure on me to be everything to them. I can be me, and do the things I do well, and they can get some of the other stuff from other people.

I would love to have an MB like you!

[Anonymous]

My MB would never admit it in a million years. But, right after something happens where her child is overly affectionate to me or wants to go to me, MB will find something to to correct me on - like using too much Tide on her son's clothes.

[Anonymous]

No. Because I think nanny tries hard to reinforce that "mama is mama and I am the nanny". No need to share my dad feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I often think, "Thank God they love the nanny!" Can you imagine the guilt if they hated seeing her come every morning? To me, it's like grandma -- more people to love them, and less pressure on me to be everything to them. I can be me, and do the things I do well, and they can get some of the other stuff from other people.

Absolutely! My feelings exactly. (another MB)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I often think, "Thank God they love the nanny!" Can you imagine the guilt if they hated seeing her come every morning? To me, it's like grandma -- more people to love them, and less pressure on me to be everything to them. I can be me, and do the things I do well, and they can get some of the other stuff from other people.

+1000

[Anonymous]

It took me a long time to figure out that DC wanted whoever wasn't around. So she might cry for nanny, but cries just as much for me when I'm not there. So no, I'd never admit that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It took me a long time to figure out that DC wanted whoever wasn't around. So she might cry for nanny, but cries just as much for me when I'm not there. So no, I'd never admit that.

How do you know she cries as much for you when you aren't there is you aren't there?