MB has said nothing about gift

[Anonymous]

I nanny full-time, but also dabble in photography.
For Mother's Day, I told DB that I'd like to work on a photo project of my charge for his mother.
DB agreed and gave me permission to buy any supplies I'd need.
I took the photos, developed them and framed them.
DB was blown away and asked me to complete one for his mother, MB's mother and a step grandmother.
It was a lot of work, took a lot of time (some of my personal time) and effort.
I wrapped them and gave them to DB to hand out on Mothers Day.
It's nearly 2 weeks later and I have heard nothing about it. The photos are now hanging on their wall, so I can only assume MB likes it.
Is it out of line to expect some sort of acknowledgement or gratitude for going out of my way to make such a gift for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I nanny full-time, but also dabble in photography.
For Mother's Day, I told DB that I'd like to work on a photo project of my charge for his mother.
DB agreed and gave me permission to buy any supplies I'd need.
I took the photos, developed them and framed them.
DB was blown away and asked me to complete one for his mother, MB's mother and a step grandmother.
It was a lot of work, took a lot of time (some of my personal time) and effort.
I wrapped them and gave them to DB to hand out on Mothers Day.
It's nearly 2 weeks later and I have heard nothing about it. The photos are now hanging on their wall, so I can only assume MB likes it.
Is it out of line to expect some sort of acknowledgement or gratitude for going out of my way to make such a gift for her?

This is where you lost the "gift status" of your photography. While she might have commented on how much she liked the photography, if you had DB pay for the supplies - it is not a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nanny full-time, but also dabble in photography.
For Mother's Day, I told DB that I'd like to work on a photo project of my charge for his mother.
DB agreed and gave me permission to buy any supplies I'd need.
I took the photos, developed them and framed them.
DB was blown away and asked me to complete one for his mother, MB's mother and a step grandmother.
It was a lot of work, took a lot of time (some of my personal time) and effort.
I wrapped them and gave them to DB to hand out on Mothers Day.
It's nearly 2 weeks later and I have heard nothing about it. The photos are now hanging on their wall, so I can only assume MB likes it.
Is it out of line to expect some sort of acknowledgement or gratitude for going out of my way to make such a gift for her?

This is where you lost the "gift status" of your photography. While she might have commented on how much she liked the photography, if you had DB pay for the supplies - it is not a gift.

Of course it is. It's a gift of her talent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I nanny full-time, but also dabble in photography.
For Mother's Day, I told DB that I'd like to work on a photo project of my charge for his mother.
DB agreed and gave me permission to buy any supplies I'd need.
I took the photos, developed them and framed them.
DB was blown away and asked me to complete one for his mother, MB's mother and a step grandmother.
It was a lot of work, took a lot of time (some of my personal time) and effort.
I wrapped them and gave them to DB to hand out on Mothers Day.
It's nearly 2 weeks later and I have heard nothing about it. The photos are now hanging on their wall, so I can only assume MB likes it.
Is it out of line to expect some sort of acknowledgement or gratitude for going out of my way to make such a gift for her?

This is where you lost the "gift status" of your photography. While she might have commented on how much she liked the photography, if you had DB pay for the supplies - it is not a gift.

Of course it is. It's a gift of her talent.

Being a nanny is a "gift of her talent" as well and she is paid for that without thanks being necessary.

I agree with PP - if you ask for money for materials you lose the gift status.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don't really even expect a thank you. Just acknowledgement of the fact that I made such a nice gift.
Also, I used my own camera, my own paper and solution and my own dark room in my personal time.
DB paid for the frame.

[Anonymous]

DB paid to have you make a gift for him. The photos were from him. They were his gift. She may not realize you took the photos. Maybe she keeps forgetting to say "I love the photo! You have such taLent".
If you're expecting a formal thank you, you're being silly

[Anonymous]

There are some rude people on this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't really even expect a thank you. Just acknowledgement of the fact that I made such a nice gift.
Also, I used my own camera, my own paper and solution and my own dark room in my personal time.
DB paid for the frame.

Your post says otherwise. You clearly do expect a thank you. Does DB know he only paid for the frames? Maybe he thought that was the cost of all of the gifts, in which case he "took credit" because it was a gift from him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some rude people on this post.

No, not rude - simply confused. Why would a third party thank her for a gift her DH paid for? I don't go back and thank the sales woman for helping DH choose a gift he bought for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are some rude people on this post.

No, not rude - simply confused. Why would a third party thank her for a gift her DH paid for? I don't go back and thank the sales woman for helping DH choose a gift he bought for me.

I just want acknowledgement that she likes the gift.
This is nothing like choosing a gift in a store. I put a lot of thought, time and effort into making this something special for her.
I didn't go to a store and choose something.
I'm also nothing like a sales girl in a store. I work side by side with my MB raising her children.
I put my heart into this project.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have thought to thank you. I may not even know you made it. I would thank my dh

[Anonymous]

When your nanny goes out of her way to make sure you have a nice Mother's Day present, you thank her.
I don't understand why this is even a debate.
Rude. Rude. Rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When your nanny goes out of her way to make sure you have a nice Mother's Day present, you thank her.
I don't understand why this is even a debate.
Rude. Rude. Rude.

Maybe she doesn't know the nanny made it

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like your MB has no idea you even took the pictures. Look at yourself as the photographer (a photographer who didn't get paid...) in this situation, not the gift giver.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure MB knows you took the pictures, developed them, etc? I think she may not.