Am I out of line for expecting a thank you?

[Anonymous]

I made a lovely gift for my former charges birthday and his new sibiling. It wasn't crazy expensive - more of something thoughtful. It's been over two weeks since delivered and I haven't recived any type of response. I'm not expecting a big ordeal but I do think it's rude not to even thanks someone for a gift.

Our relationship ended well ( they moved) and we have stayed in touched. I don't know if I'm expecting too much.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. You are totally in line. In fact I feel you should sue them for the thank you you are clearly owed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. You are totally in line. In fact I feel you should sue them for the thank you you are clearly owed.

NP. STFU. Sweet dreams.

[Anonymous]

With a new baby expect a delay in the thank you. I am sure they are crazy exhausted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. You are totally in line. In fact I feel you should sue them for the thank you you are clearly owed.

Go back in your dark, dank home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With a new baby expect a delay in the thank you. I am sure they are crazy exhausted.

This. A new baby and a birthday? They probably have a list a mile long of people to send thank you notes to. Add in the exhaustion and chaos of adding a new baby, I'd give them a little bit of a break. They might not even be caught up on the thank you notes for people who gave a gift right away after the baby was born.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You are out of line. You don't give someone a gift because you want to be patted on the back for it. You give a gift for the joy of giving the gift. If you can't do that, don't give gifts.

[Anonymous]

No you are not out of line.

However you stated that your former charge has a "new sibling." So I am assuming his parents just had a newborn baby.

Considering how much work a new baby entails along with caring for another young child, I would let this go.

They probably mean to thank you, but their life may be a bit chaotic at this time. Kids are a ton of work, plus new parents may be a bit sleep-deprived and in a brain fog a lot of the time.

Do not take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No you are not out of line.

However you stated that your former charge has a "new sibling." So I am assuming his parents just had a newborn baby.

Considering how much work a new baby entails along with caring for another young child, I would let this go.

They probably mean to thank you, but their life may be a bit chaotic at this time. Kids are a ton of work, plus new parents may be a bit sleep-deprived and in a brain fog a lot of the time.

Do not take it personally.

Yes, this.

I sooo wish I was organized enough to get thank you notes out within a week or two of receiving a gift, but I'm just not. I try, but it often takes me a few weeks - ESPECIALLY if I've been blessed w/ lots of gifts as happens with a new baby.

I totally understand about wanting some acknowledgement, but try to give them a few more weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. You are out of line. You don't give someone a gift because you want to be patted on the back for it. You give a gift for the joy of giving the gift. If you can't do that, don't give gifts.

This is how I feel as well. Give gifts without expecting ANYTHING in return. You gave that gift to your former charge supposedly because you love them and wanted them to be happy on their birthday...or not? It shouldn't matter if you get a thank you, a card, a call or nothing at all.