Read ended while driving charges.
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I started a new nanny position about a month ago, two charges, 13 and 12. Last week, I was driving them to sport practice when I was rear ended. Traffic slowed so I slowed with it, unfortunately the man behind me was distracted and hit my car. He admitted full fault. Luckily, he was driving slow and it wasn't a hard impact. I made sure the kids were okay and got out of the car to talk to the man, take pictures, etc. At that point, we were down the street from the baseball field. One of the boys kept insisting that he would just walk the rest of the way because he didn't want to miss practice, and I repeatedly rtold him absolutely not while dealing with the situation. He then ran off and went to the field. I hurriedly had to finish up with the man and drive to the field. At that point, I called MB. She freaked, she said their last nanny was with them for years and this never happened, and that this has never happened with them either, what was I thinking? Was I not paying attention? She was yelling and being extremely rude, even after I told her it was a small accident and that I was completely not at fault. When we got back home, her and DB got there. DB was much more sympathetic, and while she had calmed down, she simply said, "You need to do better defensive driving."
I don't know how to feel about this family now, I was humiliated with the way MB treated me. Any thoughts on whether this is a bad sign or should I just give this position more time? (I was using my personal car-btw) |
Anonymous
| Getting rear ended to me is not the issue. The child running off to practice, that's insane |
Anonymous
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Not cool. They were wrong. You didn't do anything wrong.
They need to talk to their kid ASAP about staying put. |
Anonymous
| She's being nuts. I have been a nanny forever and finally it happened to me- a lady turned right in front of me while it was raining. Totally her fault. Luckily I was driving slowly. Grandma and baby were with me, headed to story time. 6k worth of.damage to my car and I'm still under chiropractic care. My NF was very understanding. Shit happens, and since you weren't at fault, she's being crazy- especially if she didn't discipline the child that ran off. |
Anonymous
| Her children had just gotten into a car accident and she was terrified. She wasn't in control in a scary situation and freaked out. Completely understandable. |
Anonymous
| I'd quit. You did nothing wrong. She sounds like a nightmare in training. |
Anonymous
| If anything happened to that disobedient kid, you would be held responsible. I'd leave because of that. Just not worth the risk. |
Anonymous
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These responses are so typical of DCUM:
Nanny can't drive right, nanny can't control her charge, nanny can't handle situation, yet it's MBs fault, nanny should quit. Ugh |
Anonymous
Ridiculous. She was rear ended. No one was hurt. Kid, on his own, left scene. If he were mine, he would be in a lot of trouble for not minding the nanny. I would talk to them and I would let her know that if she EVER spoke to me in this manner, for any reason, I would quit. On fact her reaction is so extreme, I would find another position and quit. She is crazy. |
Anonymous
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This just happened today? I'm interested to see how she treats you tomorrow, after she has had time to cool down.
No matter what happens, let her know how conserning it is that your charge disobeyed you like that. Personally, I would not work for a family who gave the children the message that they don't have to obey the nanny all the time. |
Anonymous
This. Find a new job. |
Anonymous
Uh... she was driving just fine, and the charge isn't a toddler. Instead of yelling at the nanny, she should have been yelling at the brat. And by the way, adults should evolve and learn to control themselves more. Why is yelling ok? |
Anonymous
How does the nanny getting rear ended translate to her not being able to " drive right". The best drivers in the world can easily get rear ended. That's just idiotic. |
Anonymous
Watching your rear view, moving out of the way, not being in front of distracted drivers. I've been driving for 20 years and never had a problem. |
Anonymous
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Wow. Just wow.
Since the other driver admitted 100% responsibility here, your Mom Boss has no right at all to criticize your driving skills. Plus, it wasn't a major collision or anything. This could have happened to anyone, including HER. Many people get involved in things like this...Even if they are paying full attention to the road. Do not give this job more time. I would probably leave on the spot because of how the Mom Boss talked to me, but if you have to for financial reasons then you can always give notice tomorrow. Considering it has only been a month, you won't need to use them as a reference. Another reason I would quit is because it seems the parents are not concerned that their son disobeyed you so blatantly by leaving w/out permission. That would be a concern for me as a parent, but it sounds like they are only interested in berating your driving. They are crazy and their logic is so flawed, I won't even get into the reason(s) why. I am glad you + the kids were okay. So sorry about your car. 
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