Daycare, wait lists, and notices

[Anonymous]

We'd like to put DC on a few wait lists for daycare. It's just time. My question is, if I'm not given much notice by the daycare that we have a slot, how do I deal with giving notice to our nanny? Do I give her the heads up? We could be waiting another year or just another month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We'd like to put DC on a few wait lists for daycare. It's just time. My question is, if I'm not given much notice by the daycare that we have a slot, how do I deal with giving notice to our nanny? Do I give her the heads up? We could be waiting another year or just another month.

Start your son in daycare whenever there is an opening and pay your nanny the agreed upon severance. If you never agreed upon a certain number of weeks severance pay than you should do so now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We'd like to put DC on a few wait lists for daycare. It's just time. My question is, if I'm not given much notice by the daycare that we have a slot, how do I deal with giving notice to our nanny? Do I give her the heads up? We could be waiting another year or just another month.

Start your son in daycare whenever there is an opening and pay your nanny the agreed upon severance. If you never agreed upon a certain number of weeks severance pay than you should do so now.

We never agreed on one. We're not in DC, and are in an area where it's not common to have nannies at all, much less have a contract or do severance or anything. Is severance common for an hourly employee in an at-will state?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We'd like to put DC on a few wait lists for daycare. It's just time. My question is, if I'm not given much notice by the daycare that we have a slot, how do I deal with giving notice to our nanny? Do I give her the heads up? We could be waiting another year or just another month.

Start your son in daycare whenever there is an opening and pay your nanny the agreed upon severance. If you never agreed upon a certain number of weeks severance pay than you should do so now.

We never agreed on one. We're not in DC, and are in an area where it's not common to have nannies at all, much less have a contract or do severance or anything. Is severance common for an hourly employee in an at-will state?

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We'd like to put DC on a few wait lists for daycare. It's just time. My question is, if I'm not given much notice by the daycare that we have a slot, how do I deal with giving notice to our nanny? Do I give her the heads up? We could be waiting another year or just another month.

Start your son in daycare whenever there is an opening and pay your nanny the agreed upon severance. If you never agreed upon a certain number of weeks severance pay than you should do so now.

We never agreed on one. We're not in DC, and are in an area where it's not common to have nannies at all, much less have a contract or do severance or anything. Is severance common for an hourly employee in an at-will state?

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

Sorry - I meant NOTICE = Severance pay. I would like my nanny to give me at least two weeks notice if she decides to leave and I will give her two weeks severance pay if we decide to let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

I've never been let go and when I've quit jobs, I give notice but don't expect to be paid if I don't work. I'd guess it would be the same if I was let go.

[Anonymous]

If your nanny is a real nanny with the childs best interests at heart, she will understand. I personally wouldn't tell her because she could start looking for a new job and leave you in a lurch, but if the daycare calls on Friday and say DC can start monday then nanny should realize its for the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

I've never been let go and when I've quit jobs, I give notice but don't expect to be paid if I don't work. I'd guess it would be the same if I was let go.

First of all, don't listen to the posters on this board who make outragous claims like in DC it is common to pay your nanny $30 an hour, or give her two weeks pay when you let her go, or 5 weeks vacation, etc. Do what is right for your area, it sounds like just let your nanny know as soon as your find out that your child can start and then end on good terms. No need to pay her for weeks she won't work or been over backwards in any other way to support her. I'm sure nanny is a big girl.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don't know what you want to hear, OP. Ethically, you pay your nanny severance when you let her go for no fault of her own. You would have to be stunningly immoral to think that you can simply say good-bye to the woman who has cared for your child without a thought to her well-being or how she will make her rent.

You can do the right thing or you can screw her over.

Two weeks pay is most common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

I've never been let go and when I've quit jobs, I give notice but don't expect to be paid if I don't work. I'd guess it would be the same if I was let go.

No, I mean if your nanny decided to quit her job with you - how much notice would you want that she was leaving?

Severance packages are part of any job I have ever held. I would never think about screwing over another human being, much less the woman who has been caring for my child, with no warning and no severance. It would simply be wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your nanny is a real nanny with the childs best interests at heart, she will understand. I personally wouldn't tell her because she could start looking for a new job and leave you in a lurch, but if the daycare calls on Friday and say DC can start monday then nanny should realize its for the best.

Oh, please. I am an employer of a nanny - and your statement is total crap.

You are the same tiresome troll you posts nonsense here all the time. PLEASE GET A LIFE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, of course it is. You don't just let an employee go and say "good luck"!

If your nanny was quitting, how much notice would you like? Notice + severance. It is commonly two weeks pay.

I've never been let go and when I've quit jobs, I give notice but don't expect to be paid if I don't work. I'd guess it would be the same if I was let go.

No, Dear, you don't get severance when you quit. You give severance when you let an employee go without cause (ie nothing that she did wrong).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't know what you want to hear, OP. Ethically, you pay your nanny severance when you let her go for no fault of her own. You would have to be stunningly immoral to think that you can simply say good-bye to the woman who has cared for your child without a thought to her well-being or how she will make her rent.

You can do the right thing or you can screw her over.

Two weeks pay is most common.

Her husband's BAH pays her rent, actually. Or should.

Here's the problem. I can't afford two weeks pay PLUS daycare. Simply don't have the money. So now what? I can't keep her forever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't know what you want to hear, OP. Ethically, you pay your nanny severance when you let her go for no fault of her own. You would have to be stunningly immoral to think that you can simply say good-bye to the woman who has cared for your child without a thought to her well-being or how she will make her rent.

You can do the right thing or you can screw her over.

Two weeks pay is most common.

Her husband's BAH pays her rent, actually. Or should.

Here's the problem. I can't afford two weeks pay PLUS daycare. Simply don't have the money. So now what? I can't keep her forever!

Don't stress over it. Just let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't know what you want to hear, OP. Ethically, you pay your nanny severance when you let her go for no fault of her own. You would have to be stunningly immoral to think that you can simply say good-bye to the woman who has cared for your child without a thought to her well-being or how she will make her rent.

You can do the right thing or you can screw her over.

Two weeks pay is most common.

Her husband's BAH pays her rent, actually. Or should.

Here's the problem. I can't afford two weeks pay PLUS daycare. Simply don't have the money. So now what? I can't keep her forever!

Like PP, I really don't know what you are asking. If you cannot afford severance than you have to give her notice (meaning in X amount of time her job will be ending). If you don't know when her job will be ending (in that you don't know when your child will get into daycare) then you have to be honest about that and tell her. She may stay and she may leave before you are ready - that is the risk. But it truly is the only right thing to do.