Helicopter mom is driving me to quit
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Anonymous
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I'm exhausted at work but not because of my job, it's MB. She is driving me nuts and I'm just about to quit. I've been there 6 weeks this Friday and I only see her twice a week. She is very controlling. First she is trying to put an 11 week old on a schedule ( since 4 weeks). She has become more rigid at 8 weeks and won't let me adjust it. She send a hundreds of texts a day about the same damn thing. She calls during the evening to discuss and hear about my charges day. She has texted me 11 times since 8:30am. She will then text " do whatever works. I trust your judgement", but then will text an hour later. She makes me go play by play of the entire day. She gets upset at me if my charge goes off schedule.
The other thing I hate is hrs because DB doesn't always follow the schedule, she has asked me to talk to him. She said since he won't listen to her, maybe I can explain how to put her down better or show him this. I told her I didn't feel comfortable correcting him. She got all passive agressive. I'm sorry but I will not be put in the middle of parenting conflicts. That is crossing a line in my eyes. I am so frustrated and exhausted. I get it's hard to leave your child but micromanaging every aspect and getting upset at every tiny thing that doesn't go her way is pushing me to quit. WWYD? |
Anonymous
| Mom wants to be nanny. |
Anonymous
| Yup, I'd quit. She's not going to change significantly enough to be survivable (and I'm a MB.) |
Anonymous
| I'd quit. The calls during the evening and asking you to get involved in parenting conflicts (especially when you don't agree with her approach in the first place) are both way over the line. |
Anonymous
OP here. I can stand to have her text during the day - that's fine. Evenings are my time and she clearly doesn't respect that. Asking me to talk to her husband was very out of line. I believe in solid routines it since 4 weeks is crazy. She follows BabyWise which most don't agree with. |
Anonymous
| Quit as soon as you get your money. No notice, just quit |
Anonymous
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Please quit this job so you can quit posting about it!
But as to the last point, I don't see her "putting you in the middle," unless they are fighting about it and he doesn't believe in the method she wants to use. Assisting a new parent in learning a parenting technique is totally within the realm of a nanny's duties. |
Anonymous
OP here. Assisting DB in learning certain things is totally fine and I have done that in the past. The issue is MB and DB do not agree on the schedule and DB disregards some things. Also most parents have different ways of putting a child down, feeding style, etc. MB wants it all her way and since DB has not listened, she wants me to reinforce those things with him. That is none of my business and I am not getting in between that. It's highly inappropriate. |
Anonymous
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Ugh. Sounds like the job from hell.
What would I do you ask? Simple. Quit. |
Anonymous
| I agree. You should quit. However, I do think you should give the proper two week notice like a professional. |
Anonymous
Did the employer earn that consideration? Do what's best for you, OP. She cares nothing about you. |
Anonymous
OP will likely give notice because she seems like a professional. She does not seem to be in immediate danger that would be cause to leave abruptly. Doing the right thing is not and should not be dependent on the actions of others. |
Anonymous
Doormats aren't professionals. Sorry. OP needs to do what's best for herself. |
Anonymous
| Quit, OP. BabyWise people are insane. It will never get better. Start looking for a new job NOW. |
Anonymous
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Quit. Now. Don't look back.
BabyWise is horrible and has been linked to two deaths that I've read about. Your MB is shockingly undereducated. |