Does it make sense to hire a nanny (vs. out of the home daycare) if I work at home 3 days a week?
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Anonymous
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Just wanted to get a sense of how much it would interfere with my work and the nanny's work. We are weighing the benefits of nanny vs. daycare. We are looking for our 2 children, it will eventually be 3 (come next March) but with the oldest in full day preschool at that point. Any families who predominantly work from home use a nanny? How does it work for you? How do nannies feel about this?
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Anonymous
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Nannies here always say they hate working for stay at home parents and warn others not to do it.
My husband works from home. He has an office. The nanny and kids spend a lot of time out of the house. DH plans his lunch during the kids lunch so the nanny gets a bit of a break, and then the nanny puts the baby down for a nap while DH plays with the older one for 20 or so minutes. I work from home one day a week. I follow that schedule too. |
Anonymous
| You'll be pregnant for a year? |
Anonymous
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If you want or need an absolutely quiet house to do your work and it is impossible to isolate your office having a nanny while you work at home is not ideal.
If you will be unable to turn the reigns over to the nanny for the majority of the day exceptions for maybe doing lunch together or breastfeeding if that's what you want when baby comes it will be a disaster. I have worked for 3 WAHM families 2 were great 1 not so great. The one that was difficult is that mom clearly wanted to be SAHM we were never able to work out a routine that allowed for the kids to bond with me and micromanaged everything. The other one DB stayed in his office pretty much all day.Good. My current position with toddler twins mom only comes up for lunch and naptime. When they were infants she would take them to nurse. |
Anonymous
You know now you will be having a baby in 12 months? |
Anonymous
| If she's pregnant now and due to give birth by the end of this year say September and she plans on staying on maternity leave or having sole care of baby until the baby is 6 months old that would be March 2016. |
Anonymous
6 months of maternity leave? And people still wonder why women are not taken serious in the work world.... |
Anonymous
| OP here, not that it is ANY of your business but my baby is due in Nov and I plan on taking 4 mos of maternity leave. And I'm taken very seriously in my professional life, I think because people respect the fact that I prioritize my family's well-being and still perform at work. Thanks to those folks who gave me honest constructive advice!! |
Anonymous
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OP, I think having a part-time nanny, or perhaps just a college sitter looking for pt work, would be logistically much more reasonable for you than trying to find a part time infant slot that's a decent commute from your older kid's preschool.
I've done two drop-off locations, that were right next door to each other, and it was extremely difficult. It also really limited our options - there was only one infant care provider with a spot for us within 10-15 minutes of our older one's preschool. We took the spot and the place ended up being a disaster - I reported their numerous violations to the licensing agency and pulled my kid. We now have an au pair, which is going well for us. Since you need part time work (and perhaps a driver?), I'd post it as a part time job and try to get the word out to current students at the nearest community college. |
Anonymous
And yet it's still significantly less than most other developed nations consider standard... |
Anonymous
Your so professional and respected but you can't even figure out if you should hire a nanny or not. Who does all your thinking and decision making for you at work? |
Anonymous
I'm a public defender who has been working for the same county for eight years. I get six months of maternity leave. My sister is a tenured teacher. She gets even more than that. |
Anonymous
Are you a nanny? A parent? You seem to be unsympathetic to either, so why are you here? -not OP |
Anonymous
To PP above, we're actually looking for full time nanny/care provider. Even though I'd working at home, I need the care the entire time. I would basically be in my home office all day and cannot care for my kids at all when I'm working. Just trying to figure out the dynamic of working at home with a nanny and 2 babies in the house at the same time
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Anonymous
| I've done this since my oldest (now 5) was 6 months old. It helps if your office is on a different floor pr otherwise secluded. I don't have to have phone calls during the day (my work is all online and almost all asynchronous), so there was no issue of me disturbing naps, or the kids being too loud. Also, it's always worked just fine for me. My kids are used to the dynamic, and don't cry for me during the day, or, if they see me, are content with a hug and then I go back to my office. I eat lunch with them most days, and breastfeed the baby. |