For the MBs out there: It's not as bad as it seems
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Anonymous
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I'm a nanny, and I've been reading the posts on here for a while now and while it may seem like this is what nannies are like I want you all to know DCUM "nannies" are far far far from the norm. There are many nannies out there like myself who understand exactly what our role is. We understand this is not like an office job in your house. We understand we are hired to help your family. We don't all get offended when asked to host a play date. We don't all become passive aggressive when you don't give us a $5000 Christmas bonus. We won't all leave poppy clothes or huge messes around the house just because it is outside of our duties. We won't all scoff at coming into work and doing out job with a smile because its snowing or raining or windy. We won't all give you the evil eye all day just because you asked us to come to work while you have off.
I only wanted to let you all know that there are better nannies out there and to not settle for what you see on DCUM. |
Anonymous
| I'm a nanny and I agree!!!! |
Anonymous
+1 Some of us also never use our phones when working, have never been late, and think about what is best for your child ALL THE TIME. |
Anonymous
Now, if we could only get the parents to think about what's best for their child MOST of the time, our work would be 100% easier. And this forum would quiet down. |
Anonymous
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Thank you!
I'm an MB and I absolutely believe this board doesn't represent the norm. Thank goodness! We have a fantastic nanny, and met several equally well qualified people when we were hiring. And there are lots of sane MBs out here also who deeply appreciate our nannies and treat them with respect and professionalism. |
Anonymous
| Nanny here. Very well said |
Anonymous
| The opinions and behavior represent only what people, who may or may not be nannies, are willing to say under anonymity. It represents the extremes, and I don't think it is fair to say that any of us represent every opinion or behavior posted here, even if we do post here. According to DCUM I charge too much, get sick too often, am not "flexible" enough, and I don't know my place, yet I've never been unemployed or fired, and my current employers of 3 years are perfectly happy with me. |
Anonymous
| There is a wide range for defining "good nanny" Just because a nanny does differently from you does not make them a bad nanny. |
Anonymous
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+1000
Totally agree |
Anonymous
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Also, to avoid a lot of these issues, NFs should think through their needs and spell them out in the ad or in the initial interview. You will find someone who matches your family, but you need to be clear what you're looking for.
If there are things you need, like a nanny who will come in even on snow days, or a nanny who can do some housekeeping, those are things to mention. The clearer you can be about what your needs are, the more likely you'll find candidates to match. |
Anonymous
| When we first started looking for a nanny, this forum scared me away from it. It was just SO nasty. Thankfully we found someone wonderful. |
Anonymous
Count your blessings and treat her like gold. |
Anonymous
Ditto, just used neighborhood listserv. None of our DC/MD friends have nannies with the entitlement attitudes found here with the DCUM nannies (seemingly English-only). |
Anonymous
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MB here and I love my nanny. It really is a shame how horribly nannies are represented. I would never hire a nanny through this forum, which is unfortunate because it could be such a wonderful platform.
I can't imagine who these angry, entitled vile nannies work for. |
Anonymous
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you have no idea if your nanny is a DCUM poster or not. |