Would you take a job with better pay?

[Anonymous]

I am newly employed with a family that is great. I am paid market rate for my area and I do like the family. I have been babysitting ( date nights) for a couple with a newborn and they offered me a nanny positon. The position will start in 3 weeks when her maternity leave ends.

The hours and duties will be the same as my current job. I will receive the same benefits but the pay is a $3.00/hour increase. That totals out to an extra $9,000.00 per year. These people are great just like my current employers.

Normally I would turn the offer down but I could use the extra income. I will be entering grad school ( doctorate program) in two years and I may not be able to work FT. My goal is to save as much as I can within these two years so I don't have to work as much once I enter grad school.

Lastly, I know its a stretch for my current family to pay my salary and asking for more money is out of the question. This family can afford my salary easily.

I feel I am having a moral dilemma. I know its wrong to take a position after being there for so little for more money because a position is so much more. On the other hand, I have to worry about my future and look out whats best for me.

Now that I laid it out, what would you choose?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been in your current position?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been in your current position?

A month. It would be 6-7 weeks if I left.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP, but that is far too soon to leave a position that you freely accepted.

How would you feel if after a month your employers found a cheaper nanny and let you go? Maybe they have graduate school loans to pay back, too.

[Anonymous]

You've posted this question twice already

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, but that is far too soon to leave a position that you freely accepted.

How would you feel if after a month your employers found a cheaper nanny and let you go? Maybe they have graduate school loans to pay back, too.

+1 As a nanny, I understand why you would want to take a higher paying job but it just isn't right this soon. You accepted your current position KNOWING the salary. It is not the same as someone who had other chores or other kids thrown at them after the first week.

[Anonymous]

Well, would you be ok with the reverse? I.e after a month of employment your NF found a fantastic nanny who charged $3 less than what you charged. So they fire you and hire her. Shitty, yes? There is your answer.

[Anonymous]

I didn't ask this twice. I can see my post is similiar to the other but we aren't the same people.

I understand where you are coming from. It's shitty to leave a position but its boy like they won't ever find another nanny. I have only been with them a month. I'm sure if MB or DB got an opportunity for better pay and it was a job far away, I would be out of a job because they would take it. I'm sorry but I feel I have to do whats best for me. It's not personal, just business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't ask this twice. I can see my post is similiar to the other but we aren't the same people.

I understand where you are coming from. It's shitty to leave a position but its boy like they won't ever find another nanny. I have only been with them a month. I'm sure if MB or DB got an opportunity for better pay and it was a job far away, I would be out of a job because they would take it. I'm sorry but I feel I have to do whats best for me. It's not personal, just business.

So if you have made up your mind already (to do the wrong thing) why are you posting it as a question?

No, as a nanny and a student, I would not do this to my employers. As PP wrote, you accepted the position KNOWING the salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't ask this twice. I can see my post is similiar to the other but we aren't the same people.

I understand where you are coming from. It's shitty to leave a position but its boy like they won't ever find another nanny. I have only been with them a month. I'm sure if MB or DB got an opportunity for better pay and it was a job far away, I would be out of a job because they would take it. I'm sorry but I feel I have to do whats best for me. It's not personal, just business.

So why post? You know it's a crappy thing to do but it seems like your mind is already made up. I'm an MB. I agree you need to do what's best for you, as we all do. Just admit that it's kind of a crappy thing to do and hope the universe doesn't bite you in the butt.

[Anonymous]

You know what you are doing is wrong, OP, but you are going to do it anyway. Stop wasting everyone's time.

[Anonymous]

As 9:06 and 9:07 said - why are you wasting our time?

What you are doing stinks and you know it. You would hate to be on the receiving end and you took the job knowing and agreeing to the salary.

Sorry we're not all going to tell you you're the greatest and we agree with what you're doing.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't leave a job after only a month only because a better paying job came along. And I have proven that I wouldn't as I was offered a much higher paying position with another firm soon after I had accepted and started working at my current firm. I know the difference between right and wrong. I know how fast bad-word-of-mouth can spread.

[Anonymous]

What defines you as a good or bad person? Answer: Doing good or bad things. You are a bad person, OP, no matter how you try to rationalize it to yourself.

[Anonymous]

No, of course I wouldn't. No decent person would.


And stop with the sob story about needing money for graduate school. I managed to work my way - without one dime of assistance - thru undergrad and graduate school without screwing anyone over.