Let go for financial reasons

[Anonymous]

We just let our first nanny go for financial reasons. We told her in general terms what was going on, that we wished her well, and that we'd give her any recommendation she wanted. Ever since then, she has been texting and asking us to reconsider, and also if she can visit DC. We cannot reconsider and I'm also wary of letting her visit with DC after this. What can I tell her so she'll realize that it is over and done with?

[Anonymous]

Did you give her a well-written reference letter?

[Anonymous]

We did.

[Anonymous]

How long did she work with your children?

[Anonymous]

About 8 months. No, we did not have a contract. They aren't done in this area of the country.

[Anonymous]

How about something like: "I'm so sorry, but we cannot reconsider. Our reasons for doing this are driven by our personal circumstances, not your performance. We wish you all the best, and will be happy to give you excellent references whenever needed, but for right now we really need to focus on addressing our family's concerns. Thank you for understanding."

If she still persists then you ratchet things up a bit. "I'm sorry but we will not be changing our minds. Please respect our decision. Take care."

[Anonymous]

Thank you. I'm having trouble being firm but not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about something like: "I'm so sorry, but we cannot reconsider. Our reasons for doing this are driven by our personal circumstances, not your performance. We wish you all the best, and will be happy to give you excellent references whenever needed, but for right now we really need to focus on addressing our family's concerns. Thank you for understanding."

If she still persists then you ratchet things up a bit. "I'm sorry but we will not be changing our minds. Please respect our decision. Take care."

"Ratchet things up" bahahahahahhaha

[Anonymous]

If she keeps asking to see dc say something like at this time we need to focus on our family.

[Anonymous]

I assume you didn't give her any warning
that your financial situation might be changing.
Did you at least give her two weeks notice. Perhaps
she would like to say goodbye to your child, it might
Offer her some closer.

[Anonymous]

Just block her texts. She asked you to reconsider, you said you can't, she's stupid for continuing to ask since you made it clear it was for financial reasons, so it's done and over. Stop responding to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just let our first nanny go for financial reasons. We told her in general terms what was going on, that we wished her well, and that we'd give her any recommendation she wanted. Ever since then, she has been texting and asking us to reconsider, and also if she can visit DC. We cannot reconsider and I'm also wary of letting her visit with DC after this. What can I tell her so she'll realize that it is over and done with?

Why do you sound like a 12 year old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about something like: "I'm so sorry, but we cannot reconsider. Our reasons for doing this are driven by our personal circumstances, not your performance. We wish you all the best, and will be happy to give you excellent references whenever needed, but for right now we really need to focus on addressing our family's concerns. Thank you for understanding."

If she still persists then you ratchet things up a bit. "I'm sorry but we will not be changing our minds. Please respect our decision. Take care."

"Ratchet things up" bahahahahahhaha

?

Why is that funny?

[Anonymous]

I think OP has an inflated ego.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP has an inflated ego.

Why, because she's called and texted more than once? She needs a job. Lucky that you have never been in that situation.