Why does MB care what type of way I get home?

[Anonymous]

Silly question but MB saw me take a taxi home last night and then today. Normally I take a bus but I had to be somewhere after work. While getting my coat and noticing my taxi she asks " Do you plan on taking the bus or a taxi". I'm guessing she means in general and daily. I explained that I would be taking a bus majority of the time but I need to take a taxi because I have an appointment to get to. She is a very nice lady and the position is new but its a little odd. Frankly, its not much of their business how I get home but I don't mind sharing. Why do you think she wanted to know?

[Anonymous]

She's curious? Surprised that you seemed to be using taxi service as your standard mode of transportation? She was making small talk?

I doubt she had a particular agenda or reason for wanting to know. But I do think it's a fair question. If you relied on taxis to get home each night, you would probably be waiting inside her home between the time she returned home and you call for a ride and the time the cab appeared. With a bus, you would leave as soon as your work time was up.

[Anonymous]

Depending on how well she pays, she may be concerned about how much a taxi is costing you.
But no, it's not really any of her business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's curious? Surprised that you seemed to be using taxi service as your standard mode of transportation? She was making small talk?

I doubt she had a particular agenda or reason for wanting to know. But I do think it's a fair question. If you relied on taxis to get home each night, you would probably be waiting inside her home between the time she returned home and you call for a ride and the time the cab appeared. With a bus, you would leave as soon as your work time was up.

I wouldn't be waiting inside her home. She offered because she knew I was waiting for one. Yesterday I waited outside.

[Anonymous]

I beg your pardon. Whichever mode of transportation I tske, I pay for. It's none of her effing business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Silly question but MB saw me take a taxi home last night and then today. Normally I take a bus but I had to be somewhere after work. While getting my coat and noticing my taxi she asks " Do you plan on taking the bus or a taxi". I'm guessing she means in general and daily. I explained that I would be taking a bus majority of the time but I need to take a taxi because I have an appointment to get to. She is a very nice lady and the position is new but its a little odd. Frankly, its not much of their business how I get home but I don't mind sharing. Why do you think she wanted to know?

Wow you sound really socially inept. I feel bad for the kids you nanny.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she just wanted to know you had a safe way home, or maybe she was trying to make conversation while you were waiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I beg your pardon. Whichever mode of transportation I tske, I pay for. It's none of her effing business.

MB here. It would bother me if I knew that a taxi was costing you a lot of money and you were doing it daily. You are right that it's none of my business, but I would worry that would very quickly become resentful of the job and the costs of transportation, and either quit or ask for a substantial raise that I wasn't ready to give you. I wouldn't mention it again, but yes, it would bother me.

[Anonymous]

It's just surprising. The ONLY way for you to get to your after-work appointment is via taxi? It's just surprising someone would be taking a taxi on any sort of regular basis to commute from work. It's not a cost-effective decision, thus the surprise.

[Anonymous]

For me, if it was a one time thing and something important and within a reasonable distance and I could, I would drive you. That is why I care.

[Anonymous]

Clearly, no one here has lived in NYC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly, no one here has lived in NYC.

True!

I'm and MB and here are my quick thoughts:
- she was making casual conversation/being friendly
- she is concerned that if taxis are your primary transportation that probably means this isn't a great fit for you as a job for the long-term
- she was just surprised. As the above poster - taxis aren't the primary mode of transport for most people in the capital area.

Why would you so instantly be hostile about an inquiry like this? Odds are it was either completely innocent, or perhaps reflective of a level of concern for you. It sounds like this must be a newer relationship but you're already assuming the worst of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly, no one here has lived in NYC.

hence the DC in the title of this site...

[Anonymous]

I have asked a babysitter who had stayed past midnight if she felt comfortable getting home, because I wanted to make sure she had a safe means of transport home. I probably would have offer to split her uber fare if she seemed uneasy at that hour.

Maybe your boss was worried because it was dark outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have asked a babysitter who had stayed past midnight if she felt comfortable getting home, because I wanted to make sure she had a safe means of transport home. I probably would have offer to split her uber fare if she seemed uneasy at that hour.

Maybe your boss was worried because it was dark outside.

If this was a teen ager, you , not your hysbsnd, should have driven her home. Before my daughter had her driver's license, this was the agreement before I allowed her to sit for a family. She was in great demand and there was never a problem.