Really wish I could expect a bonus

[Anonymous]

I have worked for a family of three for just over three years. I buy them birthday and Christmas gifts, as well as random treats and such. I am paid well and have descent benefits, but a holiday or annual bonus would be greatly appreciated. Just my random vent. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Oops, wrong forum!

[Anonymous]

well, I'm an employer (of our nanny) but also an employee and really wish I could expect a bonus too! I've worked here for 12 years and the most I've gotten was a 20 $ scarf.

Our nanny, however, will be getting a week's pay plus spa gift certificate and gap/target cards for her kids, and a bottle of bubbly. Being an employee makes me be a better employer, I hope.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure I won't be getting a bonus. My employers are first time parents and didn't even know what guaranteed hours were. They always play dumb about anything having to so with employing a nanny although they are both highly educated and have internet access (just look it up!).

I love my charge and I get a decent hourly wage but I bet I get a token gift and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

Our (former) nanny used to give us awesome gifts - not expensive, but very thoughtful. For me she is more of a family than some of the relatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

We are not office employees, and it just isn't the same. I would feel like an ass accepting a huge bonus and gifts, with nothing to offer in return. I may not be part of their family, but I am also not a faceless subordinate either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

Our (former) nanny used to give us awesome gifts - not expensive, but very thoughtful. For me she is more of a family than some of the relatives.

But your nanny is not family, she is your employee. You can love an employee and care about their well being, but Christmas is a time for employers to show their gratitude to their employees. "Awesome" or not, your nanny was wrong in giving you or DH a gift at Christmas but the children in her care - yes, her employers - no, never. Your nanny is unprofessional in that regard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

We are not office employees, and it just isn't the same. I would feel like an ass accepting a huge bonus and gifts, with nothing to offer in return. I may not be part of their family, but I am also not a faceless subordinate either.

You give gifts to the children in your care and never to your employers (the parents) at Christmas. This is a time for all employers to give gifts to their employees in every field of employment. This is the one time where a gift should never be reciprocated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

We are not office employees, and it just isn't the same. I would feel like an ass accepting a huge bonus and gifts, with nothing to offer in return. I may not be part of their family, but I am also not a faceless subordinate either.

You give gifts to the children in your care and never to your employers (the parents) at Christmas. This is a time for all employers to give gifts to their employees in every field of employment. This is the one time where a gift should never be reciprocated.

I am a nanny and I agree with this 100%. My father was a physician in a small private practice office and his nurses were aunts to me (and still are). They loved my father and gave him birthday and anniversary gifts but never anything at Christmas (when he gave them each a bonus and a personal gift). When I was a child, this seemed wrong but my Dad told me that he would be insulted if they gave him a Christmas gift.

[Anonymous]

Nannies give gifts to their charges but never to the MB/DB at holiday time. This is very well accepted. Employers are thanking their employees at the end of the year and not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm a nanny and I seem to be the only one more concerned with what I should get my NF instead of what they will give me. I honestly don't care about a bonus, they pay we way way more than fair throughout the year, let me leave early and take days off all the time, and never leave me feeling unappreciated. I would love to give them something special and heartfelt and don't expect anything in return.

You should never give your employers a gift at Christmas - it is very unprofessional and very bad form. Stop acting like you are part of their family - you are not.

Our (former) nanny used to give us awesome gifts - not expensive, but very thoughtful. For me she is more of a family than some of the relatives.

But your nanny is not family, she is your employee. You can love an employee and care about their well being, but Christmas is a time for employers to show their gratitude to their employees. "Awesome" or not, your nanny was wrong in giving you or DH a gift at Christmas but the children in her care - yes, her employers - no, never. Your nanny is unprofessional in that regard.

IMO, you can't apply office standards to a job that is built on personal relationships.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny loves to give gifts. We let her. She is well-paid with full benefits and a nice bonus. She is a professional and I don't see how this makes her less of one. Do what works for your situation.