Nanny and breastmilk challenges

[Anonymous]

MB here. I pump 30 ounces on average of breastmilk a day. My nanny is feeding my son, who is 9 months and also eats solids 5 6 ounce bottles of breastmilk, plus breastmilk with his rice or oatmeal cereal. I have realized that my son's nanny will use whatever I give her. For example, if I only provide 24 ounces, she will "make due". I had a very difficult conversation at 3 months as she kept asking for more and more milk. I feed my son in the morning before I go to work, usually as his nanny arrives and what does she do? Immediately give him a bottle of breastmilk with breakfast and some oatmeal with breastmilk! This is super frustrating to me. She has gone into my supply and fed my son more and more. This is a nanny with 18 years experience. She did say that the families in the past all supplemented. I am at my wit's end. I think my son should get 4 bottles of 6 ounces of milk but not necessarily more than 24 ounces. Am I off base?

[Anonymous]

I also feed my son as soon as I get home but she gives him a bottle of breastmilk around 5. I get home by 5:15. So frustrating!

[Anonymous]

I have no idea about breastmilk, but can't you just tell her to feed him one bottle at 10am, one at 2pm, etc? Tell her to feed him the way you want him to be fed. Or are you just airing your frustrations?

[Anonymous]

If your son is eating solids he shouldn't be eating breastmilk anymore.

[Anonymous]

Standard breastmilk consumption is 24-30 oz per day. It is completely crazy that you are pumping 30 ounces a day + nursing 2-3 times on top of that. I've never heard of that ever. A typical baby eats 12-16 oz of breastmilk while at daycare. That is completely totally insane that your nanny is demanding so much milk.

With formula, you have to keep upping the quantity because formula is stagnant - always the same from age 0 to age 12 months. Breastmilk is dynamic and changes as your baby gets older. It becomes more calorie dense over time, so even though your baby is taking in generally the same number of ounces at age 8 months as she was taking in at age 3 months, your baby is getting more calories. Honestly, I would ask your nanny to attend one of the infant feeding courses at the DC Breastfeeding Center - I would arrange to be home to cover the hour myself and have it be paid, mandatory training on her part.

BTW - breastmilk bottles are supposed to be swirled, not shaken. I'm guessing she's not doing that since she otherwise seems unaware of how breastmilk works.

[Anonymous]

Just leave her the amount you want her to feed. If you only leave 24 ounces, she can't feed him more.

FWIW, I left milk in 4-ounce bottles. At 9 months, my kid was eating 4 4-ounce bottles during the day. It encourages the baby to get more calories from solids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your son is eating solids he shouldn't be eating breastmilk anymore.

Please share your medical education and qualifications to make such a statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your son is eating solids he shouldn't be eating breastmilk anymore.

A 9 month old shouldn't be on breastmilk anymore? None of the professional health associations agree with you on that. I hope you're not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anywhere from 24 to 32 a day is normal.

So the question is how much does your son need?

Is your milk being wasted?


How much time passes between when you feed him in the morning and when nanny givesd breakfast?

If you are feeding him at 5 am and nanny arrives at 9 is a lot different from you feeding him at 6:30 and nanny arrives at 7am.

As for the cereal tell her you prefer her use water or fruit/ veggies to prep the cereal. Some parents want cereal prepared with breast milk and nanny may think this is what you want her to do.

Solids are still secondary/ supplementary to milk at 9 months.

It's been my experience that babies will let you know when they need more or less and will switch on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your son is eating solids he shouldn't be eating breastmilk anymore.

This is not correct information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Standard breastmilk consumption is 24-30 oz per day. It is completely crazy that you are pumping 30 ounces a day + nursing 2-3 times on top of that. I've never heard of that ever. A typical baby eats 12-16 oz of breastmilk while at daycare. That is completely totally insane that your nanny is demanding so much milk.

With formula, you have to keep upping the quantity because formula is stagnant - always the same from age 0 to age 12 months. Breastmilk is dynamic and changes as your baby gets older. It becomes more calorie dense over time, so even though your baby is taking in generally the same number of ounces at age 8 months as she was taking in at age 3 months, your baby is getting more calories. Honestly, I would ask your nanny to attend one of the infant feeding courses at the DC Breastfeeding Center - I would arrange to be home to cover the hour myself and have it be paid, mandatory training on her part.

BTW - breastmilk bottles are supposed to be swirled, not shaken. I'm guessing she's not doing that since she otherwise seems unaware of how breastmilk works.

No hard science to support the shake vs swirl.

[Anonymous]

Your child is hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Standard breastmilk consumption is 24-30 oz per day. It is completely crazy that you are pumping 30 ounces a day + nursing 2-3 times on top of that. I've never heard of that ever. A typical baby eats 12-16 oz of breastmilk while at daycare. That is completely totally insane that your nanny is demanding so much milk.

With formula, you have to keep upping the quantity because formula is stagnant - always the same from age 0 to age 12 months. Breastmilk is dynamic and changes as your baby gets older. It becomes more calorie dense over time, so even though your baby is taking in generally the same number of ounces at age 8 months as she was taking in at age 3 months, your baby is getting more calories. Honestly, I would ask your nanny to attend one of the infant feeding courses at the DC Breastfeeding Center - I would arrange to be home to cover the hour myself and have it be paid, mandatory training on her part.

BTW - breastmilk bottles are supposed to be swirled, not shaken. I'm guessing she's not doing that since she otherwise seems unaware of how breastmilk works.

No hard science to support the shake vs swirl.

Right, because that's the point of this thread. Not the fact that the nanny is feeding her charge 50% more than the max of what's normal for a breastfed kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Standard breastmilk consumption is 24-30 oz per day. It is completely crazy that you are pumping 30 ounces a day + nursing 2-3 times on top of that. I've never heard of that ever. A typical baby eats 12-16 oz of breastmilk while at daycare. That is completely totally insane that your nanny is demanding so much milk.

With formula, you have to keep upping the quantity because formula is stagnant - always the same from age 0 to age 12 months. Breastmilk is dynamic and changes as your baby gets older. It becomes more calorie dense over time, so even though your baby is taking in generally the same number of ounces at age 8 months as she was taking in at age 3 months, your baby is getting more calories. Honestly, I would ask your nanny to attend one of the infant feeding courses at the DC Breastfeeding Center - I would arrange to be home to cover the hour myself and have it be paid, mandatory training on her part.

BTW - breastmilk bottles are supposed to be swirled, not shaken. I'm guessing she's not doing that since she otherwise seems unaware of how breastmilk works.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Standard breastmilk consumption is 24-30 oz per day. It is completely crazy that you are pumping 30 ounces a day + nursing 2-3 times on top of that. I've never heard of that ever. A typical baby eats 12-16 oz of breastmilk while at daycare. That is completely totally insane that your nanny is demanding so much milk.

With formula, you have to keep upping the quantity because formula is stagnant - always the same from age 0 to age 12 months. Breastmilk is dynamic and changes as your baby gets older. It becomes more calorie dense over time, so even though your baby is taking in generally the same number of ounces at age 8 months as she was taking in at age 3 months, your baby is getting more calories. Honestly, I would ask your nanny to attend one of the infant feeding courses at the DC Breastfeeding Center - I would arrange to be home to cover the hour myself and have it be paid, mandatory training on her part.

BTW - breastmilk bottles are supposed to be swirled, not shaken. I'm guessing she's not doing that since she otherwise seems unaware of how breastmilk works.

No hard science to support the shake vs swirl.

Right, because that's the point of this thread. Not the fact that the nanny is feeding her charge 50% more than the max of what's normal for a breastfed kid.

If you are going to state something as fact when it isn't be prepared to be corrected.

Your math and understanding of averages is also off.