MB doesn't like me visiting past employer's

[Anonymous]

I've been at my current position for four months. My MB and I get along well. They treat me like family and her and DB always ask " what are your plans for the weekend" and normal exchanges. Normally I say out with friends, visiting family, etc. MB asked me what I was up to this weekend. I told her I was going to my former charges birthday. We only worked together for 6 months but we meshed very well. We still stay in touch. My current MB kind of gave me a look of disproval and then was short with me. She knew from them that we still stay in touch. My question is if someone can enlighten me why MB reacted that way? It seems so odd to me. She knows I stay in touch with majority of previous families.

[Anonymous]

She didn't say she didn't approve of it.

She gave you what you interpreted as a disapproving look, may not have been at all.


I think you are making something out of nothing. If she had said that I'd look for another job because you would be working for a crazy person. You cannot tell an employee who and who they cannot visit.

[Anonymous]

Well it sounds like you are overreacting to a fairly extreme level so I have no idea how to give you any advice.

[Anonymous]

Nothing much there. Has something else happened to make you paranoid?

Do you take jobs for them babysitting or driving their kids after your full day with MB? If so make sure it does not effect your energy levels or quality of care at your full time gig.

[Anonymous]

I've been told I'm one of the most laid back people. I don't overreact but she gave a clear dirty look to me.

[Anonymous]

You are totally overreacting now.

[Anonymous]

Op next time you plan on seeing other child that are not your bosses you should probably keep that to yourself. Why risk upsetting your boss.

[Anonymous]

Exactly what did you say? Gushing over the kid and saying how much you miss them etc etc is different than saying you're going to a birthday party and not specifically mentioning whose. Our just saying you were invited to Janes birthday party and you're going to stop in with a gift and good wishes.

[Anonymous]

You totally seem to be overreacting.

Also, you are NOT a part of their family, and you would do well to remember that. I do not get personal with employers. Stay vague.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is concerned that you'll leave their family (MB's) to go back to previous family? I know for fact that one of the previous families of my previous nanny constantly called her offering her more $.

[Anonymous]

She probably did give you a look.

She might be worried you are thinking about going back to them.

She might not have realized how close you were to them she may have just thought you did babysitting for them.

She may have been wondering how things will go once your time with her family comes to an end.

She may have noticed a booger in your nose and didn't want to say anything.

I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Have fun at the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You totally seem to be overreacting.

Also, you are NOT a part of their family, and you would do well to remember that. I do not get personal with employers. Stay vague.

That is you. Different nannies and families operate differently and it works well.

Different strokes for different folks YOU would do well to remember that.

[Anonymous]

It is none of her effing business whom you see. She us a control freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You totally seem to be overreacting.

Also, you are NOT a part of their family, and you would do well to remember that. I do not get personal with employers. Stay vague.

Developing a personal relationship with my previous employers was a true blessing in my life. I am forever family to them and I wouldn't have it any other way. As a matter of fact, I'm going to their daughter's birthday tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

I think the same person is posting over & over again and projecting her own personal experiences onto you OP. Weird.

Well anyway, your boss is probably worried that you're looking to jump ship. I'm not a nanny but it also makes my boss nervous to see me talking to other people on her level from other offices - she wonders if I'm networking to jump ship or if I'm sort of socializing a level up to get promoted out from under her. Sounds like your boss is in the same social circle as your old family - they may have said something to her to make her nervous, like how much they miss you or something.