Parents have you ever regretted letting a nanny go?

[Anonymous]

If you have what were the circumstances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

That's a darn good reason to fire her.

[Anonymous]

Yes. God, yes - I have definitely regretted letting our first nanny go. She was wonderful and my son loved her. She was college educated, American, a former preschool teacher and never late. Neighbors would tell us that she talked to our son all the time on walks and was very involved during play-groups. She made homemade baby food for him every day, did his laundry, cleaned his room. However, she was expensive for our area (San Diego) and told us from the start that she did no general housework outside of housework for the baby.

At her year anniversary we couldn't meet her raise request (6.5%) which would have put her at nearly $20 an hour and we found far cheaper nannies on care.com. Being first time parents, we had no real clue how good she actually was until she was gone. What a stupid and foolish economy!!!! We have lost more work hours with late, unreliable nannies since then and our son hasn't bonded with his new nanny. I also don't think he is learning as much with the new nanny either.

This first nanny got another job within three days with a newborn and says she like the new family a great deal. I'd hire her back in a second if I could and somehow we would find the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

You have to give her a second chance ,if do again...fire her and let her know why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

You have to give her a second chance ,if do again...fire her and let her know why.

nanny here, no they really don't need to give her a second chance. Shows total lack of judgement

[Anonymous]

No because we have had only one nanny. I learned a valuable lesson while watching my parents deal with aides for my grandfather who was suffering from Alzheimer's and needed 24/7 care and the lesson is, "pick your battles". I watched my parents lose the best aide -- a guy my grandfather loved and who was good to my grandfather -- due to a small infraction (that had nothing to do with my grandfather's care). And my parents regretted their decision and couldn't get him back.

[Anonymous]

One nanny for going on 3 years now. She's great, and imperfect, and we have to make significant concessions sometimes but we trust her absolutely.

As the pp said - pick your battles. First responder w/ the nanny who took the kids to strangers' homes - that's a battle to pick. Other things you can live with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

same here, visiting her friends and lying about it.

But no. No arrangement will be perfect but many will be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. God, yes - I have definitely regretted letting our first nanny go. She was wonderful and my son loved her. She was college educated, American, a former preschool teacher and never late. Neighbors would tell us that she talked to our son all the time on walks and was very involved during play-groups. She made homemade baby food for him every day, did his laundry, cleaned his room. However, she was expensive for our area (San Diego) and told us from the start that she did no general housework outside of housework for the baby.

At her year anniversary we couldn't meet her raise request (6.5%) which would have put her at nearly $20 an hour and we found far cheaper nannies on care.com. Being first time parents, we had no real clue how good she actually was until she was gone. What a stupid and foolish economy!!!! We have lost more work hours with late, unreliable nannies since then and our son hasn't bonded with his new nanny. I also don't think he is learning as much with the new nanny either.

This first nanny got another job within three days with a newborn and says she like the new family a great deal. I'd hire her back in a second if I could and somehow we would find the money.

I made the same horrible mistake and let a fantastic nanny go thinking we could save money. My daughter cried for her old nanny for over a month and the first new nanny didn't care about my child at all and spend hours texting, second new nanny was never on time and called in sick often, third new nanny (current nanny) is fine but very slow. I'm terrified that my daughter will run into her old, beloved nanny and think the nanny left her for a better child.

Stupid, stupid mistake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

They may have been strangers to you but not to the nanny. Did you ever think of that?!?!?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have what were the circumstances?

No. The nanny took my kids into stranger's homes without permission.

They may have been strangers to you but not to the nanny. Did you ever think of that?!?!?!?

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They were strangers to her also-- that was my greatest objection. She was looking for weekend work and took my children to prospective employers' homes during her work hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One nanny for going on 3 years now. She's great, and imperfect, and we have to make significant concessions sometimes but we trust her absolutely.

As the pp said - pick your battles. First responder w/ the nanny who took the kids to strangers' homes - that's a battle to pick. Other things you can live with.

Are you perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One nanny for going on 3 years now. She's great, and imperfect, and we have to make significant concessions sometimes but we trust her absolutely.

As the pp said - pick your battles. First responder w/ the nanny who took the kids to strangers' homes - that's a battle to pick. Other things you can live with.

Are you perfect?

Of course not, but that wasn't the question. Just looking for a fight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. God, yes - I have definitely regretted letting our first nanny go. She was wonderful and my son loved her. She was college educated, American, a former preschool teacher and never late. Neighbors would tell us that she talked to our son all the time on walks and was very involved during play-groups. She made homemade baby food for him every day, did his laundry, cleaned his room. However, she was expensive for our area (San Diego) and told us from the start that she did no general housework outside of housework for the baby.

At her year anniversary we couldn't meet her raise request (6.5%) which would have put her at nearly $20 an hour and we found far cheaper nannies on care.com. Being first time parents, we had no real clue how good she actually was until she was gone. What a stupid and foolish economy!!!! We have lost more work hours with late, unreliable nannies since then and our son hasn't bonded with his new nanny. I also don't think he is learning as much with the new nanny either.

This first nanny got another job within three days with a newborn and says she like the new family a great deal. I'd hire her back in a second if I could and somehow we would find the money.

I made the same horrible mistake and let a fantastic nanny go thinking we could save money. My daughter cried for her old nanny for over a month and the first new nanny didn't care about my child at all and spend hours texting, second new nanny was never on time and called in sick often, third new nanny (current nanny) is fine but very slow. I'm terrified that my daughter will run into her old, beloved nanny and think the nanny left her for a better child.

Stupid, stupid mistake.

But that wasn't really the first poster's problem. She said they couldn't meet her raise requests, and they probably looked into the future and saw they couldn't afford her.

Also, don't beat yourself up about this. Most of us don't know as first time parents what we're getting and what it should cost.