Review time approaching....? for MBs

[Anonymous]

I am going to receive a 90 day review from my nf on Friday. For some reason, I am terribly nervous. Everything has been great so far. But reviews always cause me anxiety no matter the situation. MBs, do you ever wait til review time to discuss problems? I don't anticipate any but I've been burned before, so it's easy to be concerned.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Try not to overthink this OP. Believe me - we get nervous too - almost no one really enjoys reviews.

Just be calm and open, and be ready to bring up anything you would like to discuss also.

[Anonymous]

I do wait to talk about things I know are picky, but which I'd like the person to start doing/do again. For example, my current nanny has been forgetting to cover the kitchen table before doing art projects, and I really want that done. We have a plastic table cloth just for that purpose. So far, there has been no permanent damage, and she does it sometimes, so I'm just going to wait until we meet. I mentioned it a couple of times over the last few weeks, and I stopped b/c it didn't happen.

I would never wait that long for something major, like a safety issue, or a parenting issue (like discipline techniques, for example).

[Anonymous]

I think a 90-day review is just dumb.

I wouldn't accept a job w/reviews...It just sounds too corporate to me.

If my family has an issue w/me over something, then they can just tell me when they want to. Same goes for me.

We don't need to have official meeting like some boss/employee set up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a 90-day review is just dumb.

I wouldn't accept a job w/reviews...It just sounds too corporate to me.

If my family has an issue w/me over something, then they can just tell me when they want to. Same goes for me.

We don't need to have official meeting like some boss/employee set up.

I think most people like to be able to prepare mentally, for one thing, and to have any questions prepared they might have. For example, if you have duties you're finding hard to accomplish, maybe you would like to bring that up. A lot of nannies barely see the parents because the hand-off period is so short, and a review offers a time to do more than just say "good job," or, "I'd really appreciate it if you didn't feed the baby red berries in a white onesie."

As a MB, I am not an HR person, and these things make me nervous, too. I don't want to upset our nanny, but I also want to have time to talk at a little more leisure about what is working and what might need to be changed. I've also had a few nannies now, and I know I'm not willing to let things go forever.

With our new nanny, we're going to do a review at 4 months and even consider a raise at that point since she should have finished her ECE degree by then. We are also expecting a baby right around then, and it seemed like a good time to go over how the job might change or any worries she has about how things will go right after the baby is born (when we hired, we specified that the rate included the new baby -- the job would just be a little easier to begin with). After that, the plan is to meet every 6 months, and to consider raises after 12 months at whatever the current rate is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do wait to talk about things I know are picky, but which I'd like the person to start doing/do again. For example, my current nanny has been forgetting to cover the kitchen table before doing art projects, and I really want that done. We have a plastic table cloth just for that purpose. So far, there has been no permanent damage, and she does it sometimes, so I'm just going to wait until we meet. I mentioned it a couple of times over the last few weeks, and I stopped b/c it didn't happen.

I would never wait that long for something major, like a safety issue, or a parenting issue (like discipline techniques, for example).

Just keep the table covered when she is working. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a 90-day review is just dumb.

I wouldn't accept a job w/reviews...It just sounds too corporate to me.

If my family has an issue w/me over something, then they can just tell me when they want to. Same goes for me.

We don't need to have official meeting like some boss/employee set up.

I really enjoy them. So far in my career ive had 2 families do this. Both families gave me a lot of praise and both gave me a raises in pay.

[Anonymous]

I think a 90-day review is just dumb.

I wouldn't accept a job w/reviews...It just sounds too corporate to me.

If my family has an issue w/me over something, then they can just tell me when they want to. Same goes for me.

We don't need to have official meeting like some boss/employee set up.

No reviews means no raises.