WWYD - DB made me feel uncomfortable
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I've been with my NF for a few months and kind of feel uncomfortable. When I started DB checked me out in front of MB. People check others out all the time so I didn't say much. I don't dress provactively but I've caught DB checking me out a few times. One time I looked up and he was staring at me. I chalked it up to him watching my charge and I interact, but I caught him do that once without my charge around. He has asked about boyfriends and my ex but nothing too personal and MB and I talk about that stuff. These past 2 weeks MB has been leaving earlier and DB is here when I arrive. Last week DB walks down in a robe with nothing underneath. The top half was open and the robe was loosely closed. He generally doesn't come downstairs until he is dressed or if he did, was always in sweats. That morning he came down for no reason but to say " hi" and while walking closer he locked eyes and had a smirk on his face. He did put his hands by his junk to pull close his robe. Then he bent over almost in front of me.
Since the incident last week, I feeling uncomfortable seeing him next. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into it or if he purposely knew what he was doing. I've never or would ever be interested in any boss of mine. I'm sure this behavior isn't enough to warrant any serious action like quiting but I would love opions on what to do or how to handle it. MB's responses are greatly appreciated on how they would feel if their husband did this to a nanny. |
Anonymous
| Troll. Just had the "has your husband flirted/slept with Au pair" and you didn't get enough people to fall for that so you started a new fake one? Ol |
Anonymous
Seriously grow up and find something else to do. Maybe get a job!! People have real life issues and post here to get helpful responses. I'm no troll and I'm not feeding into you lame responses. I've never posted on here before so take the time you are putting in to start fights or call " troll" and put that to finding a job and getting a life. You seriously need it hun. |
Anonymous
The troll thing is really ridiculous. I once had my DB accidentally send a risqué picture to a text thread that MB, DB and I had been texting through. I posted about it and was called a troll by many people. You can't ask anything without being labeled a troll. I believe you OP. |
Anonymous
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Really, you need advice on this?
Option 1: say nothing and suck it up Option 2: tell DB him coming downstairs in a robe makes you uncomfortable Option 3: quit Wouldn't advise talking to MB. Doesn't matter if others think you are overreacting. If it makes you uncomfortable, it makes you uncomfortable and needs to stop one way or another. |
Anonymous
| I would just let it go op. |
Anonymous
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If it truly makes you uncomfortable OP, your only option would be to find another position.
Why so? If you stay and say nothing, this man will continue to do things that will make you uncomfortable around him + in the future who knows what else he may do? Do you really want to stick around to find out? Probably not. Also, talking to either parent is not an option either. If you talk to MB, she most likely will get offended and you risk getting fired anyway. If you speak to DB, it is highly likely he will deny it and you will get nowhere there either. If I were in your shoes, I would give my notice and leave. I wouldn't want to go into a home where a male was subtlety checking me out as well as making sexual motions in front of me. It's best to just remove yourself from the whole situation altogether. Good luck OP. Sorry you have to deal w/this, but I am confident you will find another family out there soon!! 
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Anonymous
| Make love with him,rsrsrsr. |
Anonymous
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Tell him "Jerry, this is my workplace and your not being dressed makes me feel like it's sexual harrassment. To avoid any problems, could you please make sure any time I'm here to be wearing pants? Also, please stop looking me up and down. I know it's a typical male fantasy to think about a nanny but that's not real life. I'm here to take care of your child while you and your wife are not available to do it. That's all."
Say it in front of BOTH of them. |
Anonymous
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I love the way trolls always respond the same way every time they're called out. Some variation of GET A LIFE - I'M NO TROLL - I'VE NEVER POSTED ON THIS SITE BEFORE!! Then they close with an insult to whoever called them out.
Totally predictable fake outrage. |
Anonymous
No it's very annoying and pathetic for a person to sit on a computer all day saying " troll" on every post they don't like. They really need to get a life and a job, like OP said. Too much time on your hands is a dangerous thing. |
Anonymous
Lol you do realize it's not the same person every time |
Anonymous
+1000. |