Ok to say I love you?

[Anonymous]

I got a lot of strange looks and one critical comment at the park this week when I told my charge 'I love you.' I don't usually let it slip out in front of other people, particularly mom or dad. Those three words are often the sum I what I feel though. She spends most of her waking life with me. I want to do more then just keep her in one piece. I want to make her feel...loved. Do other nannies say I love you? Only in private or in front of other people?

[Anonymous]

I love my charge and he loves me.... nothing to be ashamed of.

[Anonymous]

I do not say that, EVER. Crosses a boundary.

P.S. If you need to do something in secret with your charge, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not say that, EVER. Crosses a boundary.

P.S. If you need to do something in secret with your charge, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Hiding something that you feel bashful about is not the same as hiding something because you believe it is wrong. I won't dance if front of an adult but have no problem doing the funky chicken in front of a toddler.

[Anonymous]

I say it to her every day. Seriously, what is wrong with our society that saying "I love you" is a problem?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Her parents see her for one hour before bed time. I am sure they express love but I think a child's daily life should be infused with messages of love and acceptance, not just the end bits. But also, I genuinely feel this way. I did not choose to, it's just where I am at with this child.

[Anonymous]

MB here. While I don't appreciate the implied criticism in "her parents see her for one hour..." I also don't understand why you would (or should) have to hid feeling love for a child. I have a nanny and kids who tell each other "I love you" every day and I think it's great. I have

Say it day one and it might worry me a bit, but our nanny has been with our kids for 3 years. I have no insecurity about my or her role in their lives and I absolutely want them to love each other!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. While I don't appreciate the implied criticism in "her parents see her for one hour..." I also don't understand why you would (or should) have to hid feeling love for a child. I have a nanny and kids who tell each other "I love you" every day and I think it's great. I have

Say it day one and it might worry me a bit, but our nanny has been with our kids for 3 years. I have no insecurity about my or her role in their lives and I absolutely want them to love each other!

Was Strickland referring the the quantity of time, not quality. There is no criticism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. While I don't appreciate the implied criticism in "her parents see her for one hour..." I also don't understand why you would (or should) have to hid feeling love for a child. I have a nanny and kids who tell each other "I love you" every day and I think it's great. I have

Say it day one and it might worry me a bit, but our nanny has been with our kids for 3 years. I have no insecurity about my or her role in their lives and I absolutely want them to love each other!

Was Strickland referring the the quantity of time, not quality. There is no criticism.

*strictly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. While I don't appreciate the implied criticism in "her parents see her for one hour..." I also don't understand why you would (or should) have to hid feeling love for a child. I have a nanny and kids who tell each other "I love you" every day and I think it's great. I have

Say it day one and it might worry me a bit, but our nanny has been with our kids for 3 years. I have no insecurity about my or her role in their lives and I absolutely want them to love each other!

Was Strickland referring the the quantity of time, not quality. There is no criticism.

*strictly

Fair enough. And I'm glad for the "strickland" given the multiple editing problems in my post. I wish we could edit on DCUM!

[Anonymous]

I tell my charges that I love them and MB has actually mentioned that she's happy I feel that way about them

[Anonymous]

I have told every charge I've ever had (15 at this point) that I live him or her. Daily. Hourly. In front of their parents and god and everyone. Never had an employer who found it anything but wonderful. I think there are different types of nannies and some families may want someone more reserved/ detached. Those families would not be a good fit for me.

[Anonymous]

"Love," not "live," obvs

[Anonymous]

14:46 here and wanted to say that when I have worked with families where I was the primary caregiver, I also made a point to tell them all day how much their mom and dad loved them. So when we got dressed I'd point out that they could wear their new sweater that mommy bought them because she loves them and wants them to be safe and warm, and when we went to the park, I would mention how proud Mommy and Daddy would be to see how high they could climb, and at lunch I would tell them that Daddy must really love them to make this yummy soup for dinner last night. I've always had employers who appreciate that I articulate all the ways they show love aside from time, and as the kids get older it helps them to feel that their parents are "present" all day, even when they are literally absent.

[Anonymous]

I only say it when a child says it to me first.

Nanny I love you. Larla I love you too