nanny / housekeeper hired one month, doesn't want to nanny
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Anonymous
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Can't believe it but she doesn't want to take care of the kids. Our job offer spcifcallu statrf 50-50 housekeeping to childcare. Prefers the predictable routine of housekeeping duties, but we have a small house and don't need several days of housekeeping. My children are not safe in her care and since there have been other misrepresentations, I don't feel I can trust her.
It has only been three weeks, but I can't believe I am going to have to go through this process again. Any advice to make the firing less painful? We think we have to let her go on the next couple of days. My life is on hold without reliable childcare. |
Anonymous
| Sign up with an agency. You'll pay more, but they will replace someone quickly, and get you temp childcare. |
Anonymous
| Thanks. How about firing her. She is a great housekeeper but we need childcare. Should I offer to help find her other positions? The problem is that I caught her in a few lies, so I really just want her out of my house. |
Anonymous
| Why would you help her find another position? She isn't doing the job you hired her for, you need decent childcare and she lied to you. Fire her, get temp care and find someone else. There's nothing you can do to make it less painful, just do it, like ripping off a bandage. When I was in a similar position I just said the nanny didn't seem like a good fit for us and left it at that. |
Anonymous
| I do not employ people who lie. Do not keep her as your housekeeper. |
Anonymous
there are other threads about how to fire a nanny, you can find them easily. in short, don't drag things on and be firm but respectful. wait for the end of the day, seat the nanny down and tell them that it is not working for your family and that you need to move on. take keys away, let her say hi to kids, and take her to the door. after only three weeks I do not think you own her anything, but if you want to give her a severance (one week or whatever you think is fine or agreed with her) do it. I would not let her work for you anymore after you fire her, and definitely would not take upon myself to find her a new job (but you can tell her that you will be very happy to write good references as a house keeper since you think she is very good at that, and you can post on your local listserve to see if somebody needs a house keeper). it is not your fault if it is not working, so just cut it and move on, there is no way to make it easier or less painful. |
Anonymous
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Just do like Donald Trump and say, "You're Fired!"
If it will help you out, put a mop on your head when you say it so you will look more like him. |
Anonymous
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If she's actively lying to you and also not doing the job for which she was hired then she needs to go.
Free yourself of the guilt and just let her go. Give her a week or two of severance out of humanity (and to assuage your guilt) but move on immediately. Do not worry about finding her another job - she has not earned that level of support, nor are you obligated in any way. Just move on. You'll feel better immediately. |
Anonymous
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Do not give her severance. That's crazy. She is being fired for cause.
Also, the idea of giving anyone severance of 1-2wks on a three week job is ridiculous. Most employers give a week's severance per YEAR of service. No severance. Just fire her. |
Anonymous
| You're as full of it as a Christmas goose, OP. |
Anonymous
| Ha, that's what I am looking for. Personally, I enjoy doing the 50/50. She lied to you, just fire her! |
Anonymous
No offense but you sound like a dingbat. Of course, when you try to jumble housekeeper and nanny into one position what did you think you were going to get? And she lies, but you are deciding whether you should help her find another position? You sound really, really dumb, OP. |
Anonymous
What else would you expect from someone that values their children so little. |
Anonymous
| You have to choose either you want a housekeeper or a nanny. You cannot have both. |
Anonymous
| Sure, you can get both. I'd expect to pay more than the average market rate for a nanny, but plenty of people like jobs that include housekeeping. |