Considering ramatch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? She's an adult, she can go wherever she wants to when she wants to and just needs to be back for the start of work. You don't know if she is staying up all night long, she could be sleeping elsewhere. Unless it is actually affecting her work, leave it alone. If you don't want to be woken up by someone coming home then you might want to reconsider having a roommate (which is what the au pair is). Her potentially marrying for a green card issue? You already have her here working for you so what does it matter? She might leave in a month or it might be at the end of her time with you. If you rematch then you'd still have to get a new AP and who knows what the future would be like with them (longevity wise OR staging out late). Why even consider rematch for a potential issue that might not even happen?

It sounds like you aren't a good fit for having an AP if you are this controlling and up in someone else's business.

This is CLEARLY written by an AP.

[Anonymous]

An AP is a “roommate” only in the sense of “someone who lives with other non-family members.” A roommate in the typical sense pays half the bills, half the rent, their own food, etc. So yes, if the AP is going that, she can come and go as she pleases. But as it is, she is a guest in someone’s home and needs to abide by the household rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? She's an adult, she can go wherever she wants to when she wants to and just needs to be back for the start of work. You don't know if she is staying up all night long, she could be sleeping elsewhere. Unless it is actually affecting her work, leave it alone. If you don't want to be woken up by someone coming home then you might want to reconsider having a roommate (which is what the au pair is). Her potentially marrying for a green card issue? You already have her here working for you so what does it matter? She might leave in a month or it might be at the end of her time with you. If you rematch then you'd still have to get a new AP and who knows what the future would be like with them (longevity wise OR staging out late). Why even consider rematch for a potential issue that might not even happen?

It sounds like you aren't a good fit for having an AP if you are this controlling and up in someone else's business.

Yeah, so many families with young kids under 5 want to have a roomate in their 20s ::
An aupair is not a roomate.

[Anonymous]

Just fire her and find a nanny